I broke up with a long term partner 6 months ago, for a number of reasons - I really wanted time alone, I knew it wasn't going to work long term and I had started developing feelings for someone else.
I gave my ex the first 2 reasons, but not the last one. The person I developed feelings for (a male friend) was also in a relationship. For that reason, I stopped contact with him to try and get him out of my system and move forward.
Fast forward to now, and he has left his relationship and we are tentatively and very recently dating. He feels like a (not "the" because I don't believe in the one) right one and I feel happy to be spending time with him. I am still keeping a lot of my own time.
My ex knows we are dating and has got incredibly angry at me, saying I betrayed his trust and he knew I had feelings for the man I am now dating. I think he has every right to feel this way and he is angry and lashing out. I guess I probably deserve to just take it. However, I am feeling firstly very guilty and also a bit angry at him for being aggressive (verbally) and for having it wrong - he is insinuating that I left him for the other man. I really didn't - I left for me.
Any words of advice? I know he has every right to feel however he feels, but he seems to have latched onto an idea that is not a reflection of what happened. We still are in contact and have many mutual friends - I would like to remain friends with him but I appreciate this probably won't be possible...
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I have really hurt someone and I don't know how to cope
poisonandwine · 25/05/2016 10:56
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