Full disclosure: I'm currently 26, and I met a girl about 2 weeks ago with her friend and mine at a bar. She said she was enjoying our convo, and she asked for my mobile, to add her number. At the time, she knew how old I was, but I didn't ask her.
We started chatting on Whatsapp, having a nice time swapping jokes, and I arranged a date at a place in London. It was nice, she suggested drinks afterwards, and we left after a few drinks. I messaged her when I got home, cheekily asked if I could see her again, and she said yes!
That was one week ago exactly. Since then, things have gone downhill.
Her replies became more and more terse, less jokey. I asked her on Sunday morning if she was having a good weekend, and received no reply (although with the helpful two blue tick on Whatsapp, I knew she'd received the message).
I decided to leave off texting her until this afternoon, as I thought maybe she was having second thoughts. I also had a long work shift on Monday and wouldn't be around online much.
I Whatsapped her this afternoon, asking how she was.
Same response as before: She read the message, but hasn't replied. That's not unusual in itself, but I thought she at least might say something like 'Ok thanks' or 'Hey, I'm busy atm. I'll talk later.'
I'm worried now that she's getting cold feet about the age gap. I can't really think of another reason as to why she's not replying to me. She hasn't blocked me on Whatsapp, weirdly, but just isn't replying.
When she mentioned her age before the date last week, I honestly didn't have a problem with it. I just asked if she was OK going out with a 26 year old instead! She said of course, and that age was just a number.
I think I need some female perspective here! Is what I'm saying making sense? Or am I reading too much into things? Or should I just give her some time off?
I'm thinking of sending a simple message later, along the lines of: "Hey, are you OK? Is everything alright?"
I'm really at a loss, since I really like her, and I'm getting a bit upset that she's not even saying anything. It makes me feel like I've done something wrong, but until recently we were really enjoying our convo and we were making plans for a second date.
Please help! Thanks
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Chatting to an older woman. Has she suddenly got cold feet?
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Huitzilopochtli3 · 24/05/2016 17:49
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