Long time lurker, very first post so be gentle!
Will try not to drip feed OR write an essay
I live with my boyfriend (no kids). I work fulltime, but relatively local and/or can choose to work from home pretty much as I please. He works - also fulltime - about 1.5hours each way commute away and cannot wfh at all.
He also has an exercise-based hobby that is time-consuming by it's very nature. He had this when we met so it's not like it's a new thing. Although to be fair he has cut it down a lot since we got together as he prefers to spend more time with me . I wouldn't feel fair asking him to do even less than he does now. I do a similar pastime, but to a far lesser extent (my choice).
My problem is housework. Simply because I am physically at home more so have more free time, it is 'easier' for me to do chores, and it means it's one less thing to eat into our valuable weekend/evening leisure time together. But I am very wary of becoming the drudgess of the house by accident, if you see what I mean? And then potentially starting to resent it.
I've spoken to him about my worries. I know he would do ALL the housework without a murmur if that's what I wanted, but as mentioned, that would severely eat into our free time. So mostly he gets home to find dinner underway and the house clean and tidy just because I've had the time to do it.
Have any of you had a similar setup and if so, how did you work it out?
Thanks x
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DontDead0penlnside · 24/05/2016 09:16
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