Kind of complicated. Me and DH (DS stepdad) are about to buy a couple of flats, DS (18) knew we'd help him out, he's about to start working and we'd charge nominal rent (part of which we'll save for his future - he doesn't know this). His gf is 19 and lovely, totally. She's quiet and shy and they adore each other so we kind of know they'll move in together. Now here is the problem..
She has a hard time at home. All her pay (p/t) and benefits are paid into her DMs account so gf pays for everything virtually. Her stepdad keeps getting thrown out by her DM and is a total cock to gf - this is not the reason he keeps getting thrown out , her mum is an arse too. She's (gf) so quiet that she never kicks up a fuss. She stayed here this weekend and went home to find DM had got a puppy, this despite her already having 8 cats/kittens.
What do I do?! I want to help her set up a bank account, what do I need? She doesn't know how, she's a very gentle girl and a bit naive. IMO if she has an account she can switch everything to herself just before she moves. Either with DS or on her own - we do adore her btw so want her in the family but I have warned DS that not all young loves last - not his first gf.
Any ideas? I've never met her DM, DH has, they live quite a long way away and when DH took her back once we had a very expensive car - her DM mentioned it a lot, we've sold it now though! So I have no idea if she thinks her DD has landed on her feet.
It's a very EA relationship. Something that both myself and DH have been through which probably colours our views. Grateful for any advice even if it's butt out! Thanks.
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KittyKrap · 23/05/2016 17:57
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