My best friend of over 20 years speaks to and about her husband as though he is one of their kids.
She is feisty, particular, has strong opinions and is extremely careful with money. He is the complete opposite and she has confided in me that she doesn't know why she married him (5 years ago). They have 2 young children.
He IS frustrating, but in my opinion no worse than many other men! when she speaks about him, she really lays into him. She's patronising, curt, snipey and very bossy.
But it's when we are together as couples (with other mutual friends), she speaks to him and about him like this, in front him and in front of us all and it's really, really uncomfortable.
It makes my DH want to stick up for him, it makes me want to speak to her about it and it's made some of our friends make excuses to not be around them.
I'm really worried not just for him (because the last time we saw him, he looked tired, drawn and was really quiet. Plus she's told me he's not been taking care of himself - hygiene wise, so I'm hoping there's not a depression related issue) but for her, because I think one day, he may snap and leave her taking the kids.
I know as much as she's told me about their relationship and issues, she has recently lost a family member and I realise there may be more going on I don't know about.
We've always been close friends able to talk about absolutely anything but, when comes to her marriage, I'm out of my comfort zone.
Should I talk to her?
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Best friend treats her husband like a child
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Latetotheparty26 · 22/05/2016 21:14
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