DH works full time and I'm on mat leave, going back to work 3 days a week soon.
Apparently my roles and responsibilities include feeding everyone healthy meals, cleaning, anything domestic (although he makes allowances for ironing), making sure we are all well turned out/groomed, looking after everyone's health (ensuring he has healthy food available etc). Apparently this is what all mums do. I also do most of the baby care including night wakings but 'can't even get that right'. It is my fault baby doesn't sleep well and wants to be held all the time (according to DH) as I am with him all day/night and have failed to reach him to sleep/play independently. He is right in some ways.
DH is annoyed because he thinks he does everything. Admittedly he does help and he cooks now and then. But he is helping me to fulfill my role, and keeps reminding me of that. He's a high earner, takes care of all bills, paperwork, DIY, car related things, he also takes out the bins as they are 'his' roles.
I would love to have it all together. I'd love to be the sort of mum and wife he wants. I really thought I would be before DS came along.
I am just so TIRED. I hate leaving baby to cry and grizzle while I cook and clean. Right now I'm not interested in food, I'm too tired to eat. I've been 'cooking' a lot of ready-made things or pasta. I am irritable and snappy all the time. I feel like such a failure. DH keeps comparing me to his mum and to all the 'millions of other women with babies who still manage to run a household and look after their families properly'.
Any coping tips? Any time-saving energy-saving ideas?
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How do you fulfill your role as a wife/mother when you have a demanding baby?
WhisperingSeagrass · 22/05/2016 09:41
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