My ex lives in another country approx 1.5 hours away.
He was emotionally abusive and dumped me when pregnant. He's also a bully and can be verbally aggressive.
He's visiting DS at the moment and has 'told' me that he wants him for a week next month. He is willing to fly over to get him and fly him back.
DS is 3.7. He loves his dad, but I'm dreading this conversation later.
My mother is dying at the moment, I'm not sure how long she's got - it could be weeks.
I can't cope with my little boy being away from me at the moment (last time I agreed to this I regretted it - I was waking with panic attacks).
Because of my history with ex I dread his confrontational, aggressive manner and bullying. He says I'm making this all about me - that he has rights and that he's got a right to see DS in his home (with OW and her DC)
Usually he'll come here and I let him stay in my place to see DS while I see friends and get a break. Then I'll bring him to ex's country and he'll live with ex for a few days (usually 3-4). We alternate this to make it fair.
I think a week is too long for a young child to be apart from their mother - am I being unfair? DS is a bit clingy ATM, needs me with him at night to go to sleep, needs reassurance that I'll pick him up from nursery etc.
(Reason ex stays at mine is that he says he can't afford to stay anywhere else and I was the one who 'took his son away' - I moved back when my mum became ill)
Can anyone advise how to handle him today?
I'm feeling very anxious and I'm low because of the situation with my mum. I don't need his shit.
Thanks
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PrancingQueen · 22/05/2016 08:15
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