Hey all;
Here are links of a previous thread I created (so you can read the backstory as I can't be arsed to type it up all again).
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/2599577-do-i-owe-to-give-my-dp-sex
So basically, I did what you all suggested. I applied the 'no contact rule' (well limited contact cause of DS) I have been going to meet up groups in my area, I was planning to go on holiday with DS (as I've never gone on holiday with just us before), I decided to brighten up my wardrobe (as family members and friends have told me that I wear mostly blue/black/grey clothing), I declined to have sex with DS dad from the last time I spoke to him. I was finally moving on, yes I was upset for a few days, but I was getting on.
Until...
He called me and said that he wanted do spend the day with DS and I.
Previous to that, DS hadn't seen his dad for 3 weeks, we didn't hear anything from him. Till we did, he mentioned that he got into a car crash and broke his phone, so couldn't contact me ( he told me this on the day that he said he wanted to spend the day with DS and I).
We had a great day, I felt like a family with him DS and I, and of course I was in cloud cuckoo land. I felt disheartened that later on the day he asked me if I could come to his for sex, I lied and said that I was on my period and I quickly changed the subject and suggested that after we are done at the museum, we should grab lunch. He loves food, so I knew this would make him forget about the unwanted sex as he was being cold/distant. But after that he was ok, and we enjoyed the rest of the day.
DS dad mentioned that his moving out soon and that DS and I could live with him ( H lives in a hostel and children are not allowed to stay there) etc etc and that he loved us--basically all that bullshit.
So I was stupidly dreaming that him and I would grow a big family, that we would move in with him, life would be perfect, that I'm going to marry my childhood sweetheart soon, there would be no more abuse, no more hurt etc etc.
I quickly waked up, when a few days later after we saw him, I called him to see how he was as I hadn't heard from him. He was clearly stressed about something when I spoke to him on the phone, I asked him that " why didn't he call me, that I hadn't heard from him"; then he shouted down at the phone saying "YOU HAVE CONTRACT DO YOU? WHY DON'T YOU CALL ME? I HAVE NO CREDIT, YOU ARE THE SECOND PERSON THAT TOLD ME THIS, YOU BOTH HAVE CONTRACT....I'M PISSED OFF ALREADY AS IT IS", I just hang the phone up. I realised that him saying " you are the second person that told me this...", meaning that he is seeing a girl and she must of told him the exact same thing.
I then realised that he didn't really want to see me, when he said that he wanted to see DS and I. I think he just wanted to see DS as he didn't se him for the past 3 weeks, and I guess I'm just in that package etc etc.
Am i right?
I feel so stupid. Thank God I did;t have sex with him as I would of felt worse. But I was moving on...I was actually looking forward to move on with my life without him cramping my head..I have currently met so many new fantastic people via or local meet up groups, I was planning to book holiday tickets for DS and I. But as soon as his dad called me, it was like my world has stopped and I went back into lala land, how can I stop this and remain strong? I really do not want to waste my 20's on this good for nothing guy.
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