I posted this on another thread I have but it's quite long and I'm all over the place right now
Ok, so I just handed him a letter stating I am going to divorce him. He was a bit shell shocked. And said
'I can't believe your doing this. Over a trip to France! I was gonna talk to you today and ask you and the kids to come with me'
Now I'm not stupid and I don't believe that for a second. He did a lot of telling me how I'm bullying him and I'm getting what I want etc.
He then started saying how he would happily sign it as long as it's honest (the petition that is) and by honest he means if I cite constant arguments, then that's not correct it must read constant arguments started by MrsDeathOfRats.
If I cite
Refusal to seek help with anger issues
That is incorrect and it must read refusal to seek help with anger issues as perceived by MrsDeathOfRats but not by Mr
Etc etc
Essentially he says he is faultless and blameless in this relationship and he will not sign anything to the effect saying he is otherwise.
He also interrogated me about cheating on him. Because that is the only possible reason I could want to leave him.  and when I repeatedly said no (which is true. I never have) he just kept asking and assuring me that he would prefer me to be honest even if it hurts him. And then called me a coward for not admitting to it.
He then started telling me how he will pay the maintenance etc as he isn't going to let his kids eat of bins like animals  (he is a tad melodramatic) but he wants to warn me that if he goes to Algeria - which is likely as now he will need to get away from England because of this - then he won't be able to pay.
And life is tough enough so if he meets a new woman and has another family then e won't be able to afford it all....
In some ways I'm so crushed that he jumped to this so so fast. But I think this is a blessing in disguise... I already know he is going to abandon his kids. I can prepare for it cos it's coming. what a cunt though
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just informed STBXH of divorce
MrsDeathOfRats · 15/05/2016 22:06
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