So basically my marriage is over, I don't want to be with him any more for a hundred different reasons however I can't leave our family home. We rent and I don't work because we can't afford childcare for the children, I have had to give up my career and would struggle to get a job that would actually pay London rent prices. My name is on our contract and as far as I'm concerned I would be stupid to leave and would struggle hugely to rent on my own. My daughter has just been accepted into a good school, my family are near by and we are very happy in this home (we have moved 4 times in as many years and I don't want to up root the children again).
However my husband refuses to accept that I don't want to be with him, he swings from raging that I am ruining his life and that hates me to being adamant that we can make things work.
It really needs to be him to leave but I just don't think he will, he would be more than able to get a flat on his wages and this would then leave me able to claim housing benefit and income support until I find a job (as a single parent the government pay more childcare costs I believe). Is there any way I can force him into moving? In so unhappy, it's making the children unhappy I just don't want to live like this anymore. I would love for us to split and to still remain friendly but he has openly said that if I leave him and ruin his life he will ruin mine.
If I can't make him leave has anyone got any experience of living with someone after the relationship has ended?
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Can I make him leave?
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PinotAndPlaydough · 15/05/2016 10:35
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