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AIBU best friend on phone all the time.

(19 Posts)
Vonnie2016 Thu 12-May-16 22:39:10

Okay, just want to see what others think of this.
My best friend, she is great, our DC's play together we walk to school every morning together and we have a great friendship.
But, she is never off her phone!
I always have the rule (for myself) that if you are in company like having a cuppa and catch up you put your phone down and leave it down. (Might just be me)
Anyway, we have had full coversations where she hasn't looked up from her phone once, looking on Facebook etc.
AIBU to think this is pretty rude?

RosieSW Thu 12-May-16 22:55:11

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Vonnie2016 Thu 12-May-16 23:01:28

Oh! I thought I was just being uptight! It really is rude!
Like yourself I keep my phone close by incase of a call etc, and even then I don't always answer if it isn't school/nursery.
But, she does it even when we are walking to school sometimes and I have started to just stop chatting then, she looks at me as if to say " why have you stopped?" Erm, 'cause your on your phone!!
Thing is do I say something? confused

FutureGadgetsLab Thu 12-May-16 23:02:25

I do this sometimes but I'm anxious socially and use it as a crutch. Is she the same?

Vonnie2016 Thu 12-May-16 23:12:46

She's quite shy, but it's only just me and her when she does it and we have been friends for a good few years, get on well, can talk openly to each other. A good friendship all in all, it's just this that irks me a bit, as I must admit is one of my bug bears.

Joysmum Thu 12-May-16 23:16:40

I had this when my dad used to keep the Telly on when we'd visit and even get annoyed when he couldn't hear because of conversation.

I started saying I'd go now and come back another time when we could actually talk.

Telly then was switch off when we arrived on pre-planned visits. I won't stay if we can't talk.

RosieSW Thu 12-May-16 23:20:39

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TheNaze73 Fri 13-May-16 08:08:01

I think that is so rude not her. Some people think they're so important.

TheNaze73 Fri 13-May-16 08:08:17

Of her

DoreenLethal Fri 13-May-16 08:23:06

Just don't talk to her when she is on her phone. She will soon get the message. Or when she does, time her and after 5 mins, start packing your stuff up to leave. Just tell her there is no point meeting up if she is glued to something more interesting all the time.

Vonnie2016 Fri 13-May-16 08:29:34

Good advice everyone. I had to have a word with DF recently as he got his first smart phone, he lives far away so don't see him often and he was never off the damn thing, my Step mum was describing herself as a smart phone widow. Final straw was when it came out at the dinner table! 😂 he took it rather well.😊

princessbeer Fri 13-May-16 08:31:43

Hate this.
My ex used to do this all the time. Even when we were having really important conversations.
Rude.

Woodhill Fri 13-May-16 08:48:12

Really rude I only

Woodhill Fri 13-May-16 08:48:43

Imo (silly predictive text)

crazymammy Fri 13-May-16 09:33:25

Kind of depends on the friendship I suppose. I have a friend whose house I can go to, grab a cuppa and lounge with her on her sofa.
Sometimes we're gossiping like a pair of old lady's and our phones are untouched.
Other times we're both on our phones making random remarks to each other. That being said, she's my closest friend and is more like a sister.
However, I do have friends who I go for coffee etc with and my phone stays in my bag and isn't looked at. In that situation I'd find it rude. But with my closest friend it's not even a consideration. smile

Drinksforeveryone Fri 13-May-16 09:41:16

It is extremely rude.

Mairyhinge Fri 13-May-16 09:58:01

I used to have a freind like this....she'd be on her phone, replying to texts or checking fb, whilst sitting in my house drinking my coffee.
In the end I'd just stop talking, mid sentence, and be completely silent. Took her a few seconds to realise, and was astounded at MY nerve!!
Silly cow. Is now an ex friend,
Saw a pic once saying, "respect? There's an app for that, it's called put your fucking phone away"

CatchIt Fri 13-May-16 10:09:35

Urgh, I had a friend like this. We went out for a drink once, just the 2 of us and she was constantly texting.

I asked her what was so important and she replied that her bf got upset when she didn't reply. I asked her does he know you're with me & she replied he did so I said well can you put your phone away as otherwise this whole thing is pointless as all I'm doing is watching her text when I could be doing something more interesting such as watching paint dry

I see considerably less of her now due to her phone obsession and irritating pandering to her bf.

HostaFireandIce Fri 13-May-16 10:45:38

I wouldn't go with trying to start a conversation about it specifically, but maybe next time you are saying something and she gets out her phone, say something like, "Put that thing away, I'm trying to tell you something important!", but in a teasing manner. If you do that a few times she might get the message, or it might start a conversation about it without it seeming so much like you sat her down to have a conversation about how rude you think she is. That's what I would do, but then I am a coward...

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