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blackouts during sex

(24 Posts)
sexamnesiac Thu 12-May-16 16:14:01

Often, in the morning, I will remember the build up to sex, and have a vague awareness I must have done it, and even the clean up after.

I can't remember the sex. At all.

I remember last night, telling him it must have been decent, cause I had teeth marks in my own arm where I'd bitten it, looking in the shower after.

But as soon as it's finished, more or less, I have no clue what I've done.

I'm not upset about it. A bit pissed off, I suppose. It happens more often if I've been drinking, but I can tell you in detail all the before and after. It's only the sex I can't remember, and it can happen when I'm sober.

Am I weird? Is there a science explanation?

Sassypants82 Thu 12-May-16 16:25:55

Thats pretty strange. Don't mean to offend, but do you know & trust 'him' 100%? Has this ever happened with any other partner?

Hydroshield Thu 12-May-16 16:33:26

Why didn't you post this in the Sex topic OP? It's there for good reason.

ImperialBlether Thu 12-May-16 16:35:40

I wouldn't post this in the Sex topic - it belongs in Relationships. As Sassypants says, has this happened with other partners? What is this guy into? Does he do breath-play or something like that?

It's a really serious thing, OP - I'm worried for you. Does he live with you?

Chchchchangeabout Thu 12-May-16 16:36:43

How strange! Does it happen when you masturbate as well? Just with this guy or has it happened with other partners? Could it be something psychological, blocking out the memory because of past bad experiences?

HairySubject Thu 12-May-16 16:38:05

That is quiet bizarre, I don't think he could be drugging you or anything or you wouldn't remember the before an after but it is very strange.

Hydroshield Thu 12-May-16 16:39:25

I bet do differ, Imperial. Sounds to me like OP wants us to share our experiences of biting ourselves because the fucking was so hot.

Hydroshield Thu 12-May-16 16:39:43

beg! wink

ImperialBlether Thu 12-May-16 16:43:31

I didn't get that from it at all, Hydroshield. I don't know who I hope is right, though!

Makesomethingupyouprick Thu 12-May-16 16:50:17

Pop to the GP, could be an underlying physical health condition.

Makesomethingupyouprick Thu 12-May-16 17:17:18

And I don't mean go to the GP because it's weird so ask them but because there are underlying medical conditions that could cause this.

Low BP, a heart condition or certain forms of epilepsy could cause this. All of which would be exacerbated by alcohol so you saying it's more likely to occur when you've been drinking stood out to me.

Might not be anything like that at all but I'd get it checked.

sexamnesiac Thu 12-May-16 18:00:50

I didn't get any replies in Sex.

I trust him entirely.

I just can't recall what we've done. It's never happened with anyone else.

I don't mean I pass out. I mean that I have no recollection at all. Like if you're wrecked and black out through booze and you can't remember the last four pubs.

Except sober.

I've tried googling but I didn't find anything very useful.

sexamnesiac Thu 12-May-16 18:02:48

I really wondered if it happened to other people.

Sirona Thu 12-May-16 18:08:25

Some sort of petit mal springs to mind. Off to the GP with you op I would think.

Makesomethingupyouprick Thu 12-May-16 18:12:30

If you have low blood pressure or a heart condition then increased blood flow to the genitals which occurs during sex could lead to reduced blood flow to the brain so it doesn't work properly and can't form memories.

Partial epileptic seizures are also not unheard of and can occur in response to orgasm.

Same thing happened to a friend and these issues were investigated.

sexamnesiac Thu 12-May-16 18:12:47

Epilepsy! Shit. My bp is normal, sometimes a little low.

I've had a look at 'absence seizures' cause of what you said.

He'd not carry on fucking me if I wasn't 'there' though. I'm 100% sure.

I wondered if hormones or chemicals or whatever are fucking my brain up.

It is strange though. I've thought about videoing me before, but that concerns me more than not remembering (cringe) envy

Makesomethingupyouprick Thu 12-May-16 18:24:06

In a lot of partial seizures the person seems to carry on as normal but they're 'not really there'. There may be very small physical signs but another person may not recognise them - especially during sex or orgasm where people are reasonably expected to have different expressions/behaviour or may exhibit physical signs of muscle activity.

Being drugged wouldn't explain remembering directly before and after. If you remember the build up and clean up then there is a short period of time you can't remember unless you have penetrative sex for several hours?.

If you've experienced some previous sexual trauma you may 'black out' during sex. That's another possibility.

I'd get a physical/neurological cause ruled out. Might be nothing like that at all but worth looking at I think.

sexamnesiac Thu 12-May-16 18:26:23

Transient Global Amnesia, Google says. I'm writing the words here so I can remember them grin.

I'll keep looking. According to this, I should be a 60 year old man.

sexamnesiac Thu 12-May-16 18:29:26

Sorry I missed that last post. I'm trying to navigate the app on my phone.

I'll sit and Google all these new words and see where I get.

I never approached it from a 'seizure' POV before. I found it hard to find anything relevant but now I can read a bit more cause I've changed the search terms.

PotOfYoghurt Thu 12-May-16 18:36:16

Do you orgasm every time, or does it happen when you don't as well?

MusicIsMedicine Thu 12-May-16 18:40:02

Severe hypoglycaemia causes memory loss. Alcohol can cause hypoglycaemia, as can exercise, as can underlying medical conditions.

So can certain drugs like Rohypnol and other memory suppressing agents.

If you are biting yourself, you do not know if it is not drug induced, a massive hypo or a seizure.

sexamnesiac Thu 12-May-16 18:57:26

http://www.livescience.com/16488-sex-mind-blowing-amnesia.html

sexamnesiac Thu 12-May-16 19:00:35

Hypo is lacking blood sugar? Maybe. I'll look that up next.

He's not drugging me! I feel normal after.

It's not every time.

MusicIsMedicine Thu 12-May-16 20:01:34

How do you know?

Short acting, fast acting drugs can be slipped in drinks or other ways and act within a set timeframe, wear off fairly fast, leaving the person none the wiser.

Have you made a diary of these events?

Outside of sex, what happens when you do exercise, miss a meal or get hungry or go out drinking?

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