Hi. I have been married for 8 years and my husband is a respected, successful professional. I work part-time from home but earn nowhere near what he does, so I mainly look after our two kids (6 & 3). We're in our mid-forties. He is lovely to everyone except me. When he's stressed, or if I disagree with him, he will insult me. He's careful to never do this in public, but in private, only in the last week, he's called me a cunt, a cancer, a failure, an arsehole and a fuckhead. The current reasons are because I am getting a dog and he's not happy about the breed/ timing of getting it, also because I have had a tendency to hoard in the past while feeling down and now, genuinely due to lack of time (due to kids/ household) have not had a chance to declutter, also he's unhappy about the itinerary of a holiday we're about to have. The irony is, we recently went on a long-haul holiday of a lifetime together and we had a wonderful time, and I was thinking how much I love him, but this last week his verbal abuse has made me feel really depressed and unsure what to do. He is never like that to the kids. He is fair and loving to them. I want to go to counselling, but he's too busy to do that. I'd like to also add that our sex life is non-existent (we've had sex only once since beginning of 2015). Please help me. I want to fix my marriage because we have been happy in the past, and because we have young children who love him. But I cannot take his anger any more, and also worried about repercussions on the kids (who often hear the shouting). We went to counselling years ago, and he just lied about me making it sound it was all my fault. I didn't help my cause by getting upset, crying etc. so the counsellor didn't realise what a Jekyll and Hyde he is. I am at a loss what to do. Thank you.
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Feeling depressed - verbal abuse from husband
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KensalMama · 06/05/2016 14:26
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