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Internet dating and feeling a little worried please help?

(35 Posts)
gemsangels123 Wed 04-May-16 20:30:39

I have posted recently about Internet dating. I have nobody else to chat to...so would appreciate a little advice as I'm a little concerned. I'm trying to be cool and not chat too much. Go with the flow. Arranged 3 dates...asked for advice on here. Chatted on WhatsApp to a couple. One in particular because he texts alot and I feel I have to respond. Now he is getting mad at me because I'm not responding immediately but I'm in work then home and don't stop until 9pm. Now he's texting asking me if I'm arranging other dates. He is getting angry. I'm just worried because I have said where I work etc. I feel silly mailing this but I'm a bit worried as he is getting angry. I agreed to a coffee date next week I just havnt got time to message all day. Also I am chatting to others as that's the whole point isn't it?

QuiteLikely5 Wed 04-May-16 20:34:27

Text this guy and state firmly that you do not wish to receive any further contact from him at all advise him if he ignores your request then you will have no option but to report to the police for harassment!

Drastic I know but it might work!

In future do not give out details of work/home locations, best to be safe smile

RedMapleLeaf Wed 04-May-16 20:34:56

1) Block him.

2) Reconsider whether you should be dating.

TeaStory Wed 04-May-16 20:35:27

Big red flags! Please don't meet him, he sounds like a nightmare control freak.

Can you warn your workplace about this guy if you feel threatened by him?

He has no reason to be getting angry, you've done nothing wrong.

gemsangels123 Wed 04-May-16 20:36:56

Thankyou ☺
I feel really vulnerable this evening now. Naturally you chat about work etc but now I'm so worried it's a horrible feeling. Thankyou again. I will say that if he texts again. I haven't even done anything wrong.

gemsangels123 Wed 04-May-16 20:38:17

Thankyou ☺
I will tell the people I work with. Probably nothing to worry about I just worry.

gemsangels123 Wed 04-May-16 20:38:48

I will block him but why should I not date?

AnyFucker Wed 04-May-16 20:38:50

Dear God. Someone so people-pleasing should not be Internet dating

Why haven't you told him to fuck right off ? He's trying to control you and you haven't even met him

Send him one message saying you never want contact with him again and then block him

And in future don't give RL details out until you are sure of someone

ChicRock Wed 04-May-16 20:39:17

I agree you should reconsider whether you should be dating. Because you seem to have a problem saying 'no'.

Why on earth have you agreed to a coffee date with him?

Hissy Wed 04-May-16 20:41:49

Honey, if gets even slightly snippy, he has no right!

Just block him. Now. Both on whatsapp and main phone

He's a weirdo. There is a good reason why he's single.

gemsangels123 Wed 04-May-16 20:42:41

Ok wait.... please calm down.
I agreed because he seemed normal. I kept the texts brief because apparently that's the best way. I agreed to coffee in a public place because apparently this is the best way. New to dating, yes! I can say no. This has happened within an hour. Lovely to crazy. Hence my post on here.

gemsangels123 Wed 04-May-16 20:43:54

Thankyou hissy. I will ☺

AnyFucker Wed 04-May-16 20:44:21

So, have you told him coffee is off yet ?

gemsangels123 Wed 04-May-16 20:46:32

Of course! I was posting as I don't have anyone to chat to and this site has been great. Just feeling a little worried.

AnyFucker Wed 04-May-16 20:49:44

OK.

Lovey, maybe you should join the dating thread to get some tips on how to do this thing safely and without compromising yourself.

This went too far. The very first time he was remotely arsey about an unanswered message it should have been " so long, sucker ..."

RedMapleLeaf Wed 04-May-16 20:50:53

Naturally you chat about work

You don't give away personal details, you say, "good day at work and ready for the weekend".

gemsangels123 Wed 04-May-16 20:54:55

Yes, I will.
I have nothing to worry about now have I? He will hopefully just calm down. I won't chat about work etc anymore. I actually feel sick.

cozietoesie Wed 04-May-16 20:58:27

Don't feel sick. You'll manage to nip this one early so if you're firm enough, he should just move on somewhere.

Hissy Wed 04-May-16 20:58:35

Oh Christ no AF, not the dating thread! That's a bubbling cauldron of self doubt and paranoia!
The last place I'd recommend for safe dating advice tbh.

Common sense and Relationships is definitely the way to go!

gems you wanna sounding board? You can pm me if you like?

The faster they heat up, the faster they turn. Don't ever tolerate anything less than nice, happy, respectful normality. That means not machine gun texting, not demanding answers, not constantly monopolising your time, understanding you have a life and need to do other things sometimes.

AnyFucker Wed 04-May-16 20:59:51

We don't know for sure if you have nothing to worry about, love.

It's more likely than not though that this particular inadequate will slink off back where he came from when he realises you have given him the bum's rush

Lesson learned

AnyFucker Wed 04-May-16 21:02:07

Hissy, are there not at least some basic safety tips on there ? shock

Startingover2016 Wed 04-May-16 21:04:04

I don't even give my number pre-date any more as so many guys get all over enthusiastic texting or what's apping day and night. It's ridiculous. When I get a good morning, how's you or sweet dreams text my heart sinks. They don't even know you!

I say upfront now, I don't have time to text all night long. Let's swap numbers after we have met.

This one, just bin him off op. Some of them do get possessive.

cozietoesie Wed 04-May-16 21:05:31

I'm not sure that the Rules that are in the OP there would constitute 'safety tips', AF. Maybe they have them in the body of the thread.

AnyFucker Wed 04-May-16 21:06:26

Somebody needs to do it then smile

gemsangels123 Wed 04-May-16 21:08:12

Thankyou all smile

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