Hello everyone!
New shiny thread, yay! Thanks Freaky! I think the easiest way for you to handle the conversation would be to 1) leave him the floor to explain himself, let him do the talking and then when he is done 2) deliver the 21 days speech. Glad to hear you feel ok!!
Fox I read somewhere that getting back with an ex should only happen if you are satisfied with how things ended the last time. I makes a lot of sense, because you are less likely to idealize the break up than the rest of the relationship. So giving it a cold hard look, what do you think of the break up?
Good luck Sassy on your date tonight! (And 
in the meantime!)
Reddish I think it is very wise to stay away from potentially pressurizing comments. It sucks, I am sorry. If it cheers you up, pulling back after you have explained yourself (take note Bacon and Karmic) is the only way you still might have a shot at reeling her back in. Chances are slim though so moving on is probably the healthiest thing to do.
Bant that sounds like a promising iron! If she has very little free time, I would make sure she knows you appreciate her spending it with you.
Datingbarb welcome! Yes, brace yourself for the "50K shades of weird" you are about to discover! Get your rhino skin on, have fun and never ever loose sight of the fact you are a bloody amazing catch. Anyone failing to claim you, that is his loss.
314 lose the 29yo. Honestly. They are still trying to figure out what a savings account is, a grown-up relationship is not on the cards. You will end up babysitting. I am the same age and they even try it with me, even though mothering is definitely not me. I think the switch flips for men at around 33/34yo (eternal man child case aside), I would aim for that.
Handy how was the Twix date?
So, Karmic. The ball is in his court to convince me he is not an insensitive, self-absorbed, flaky idiot at heart and that was just a mistake. Either he steps up or I am done. If he does step up, I will still be hammering the message next week when we get together, at the amazing date he is supposed to organize. I will tell him face to face how his behavior made me feel. Given his personality, I think hearing that I felt hurt, used and violated will be enough for him to never do it again.
There will not be any forgetting or forgiving anytime soon and he knows it. I just need to be careful not to blow things out of proportion because I have a tendency to that. Understatement of the century. Plus, his behavior was a massive turn off for me. I was already kind of on the fence, but I am not sure I care where this goes now.
Oh and Karmic pissed me off so much that I messaged MrOrganizedYogi. Who has replied with a sweet/friendly message. This will not go anywhere anytime soon though as he is still absorbed in his job search and talking about moving to Asia. But still, it was a nice, grown-up (
314, he is 34) message.
And yup, I wrote the first novel-like post of the new thread 
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I do want some answers but I'm not sure if he's going to give them to me so I guess the best I can hope is that I can deliver the MH thing and leave it on a friendly note, which I KNOW is more that he deserves but it'll make me feel better.
And I just can't go through life thinking that every guy is a potential liar. I'll end up bitter and twisted and alone.