Hello I am a mid 40's man and have used and browsed MN for the last 3 years anyway I have been seeing someone for the last 20months and the relationship is predominantly very good ,passionate and loving on both sides we have had a few ups and downs as most people do over time. We don't live together but stay at each other's regularly, she has a 19/20 year old son who is charming but very selfish and has managed to get himself sacked from work stolen from his mum and now sits up all night playing games and sleeping all day while his mum does 10 hour shifts , absolutely nothing bothers him and he is happy with the way his life has become . My son is exactly the opposite works two jobs around his apprenticeship and also very happy.
We don't fall out over her son because I try not to get involved she defends him by saying he must have a mental issue ( I just think he is bone idol) .
Anyway that's the back ground and now the problem , we have just had a lovely night away in a major city together for drinks and a meal and she woke up yesterday morning saying that she has never been so down and she doesn't want to drag me down with her so I should finish the relationship for my own good and sanity, my exw had years of mental issues triggered by an alcoholic father and abusive mum and she brought this up that I 'deserve' someone better....I really don't want to be with anyone else and the thought of not being in her life is scary....
Am I trying to hold onto something that is never going to work ? As I said most of the time things are good but for the last 6 weeks it's been a bit up and down ....
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Herald · 03/05/2016 10:47
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