Ok. I recently posted a thread in a different forum explaining my situation. I'm a lone parent to an almost 3 year old ds, exH and I separated when he was 10 months. There was no animosity, we just married too young and realised we wanted different things.
I have been accepted to do an undergrad at a university in a city about 2 hours away from where I currently live. After much debating I've decided to take it. It could mean a great future for ds and I.
ExH is a train driver, he works long hours and weekends etc so he has ds about one night a fortnight, usually on a weekday. I can't help but feel guilty that I'm "taking" his son away as ds starts full time nursery in September so having him on weekdays won't be possible. He gets Sundays off and I will be coming home to see my family very often so he can see him then but overnight visits will be limited.
Other times I don't feel so guilty as he has let me down a few times and I feel he puts his social life before ds. Example - he usually gets 3/4 days off in a row as he works shifts but he never wants ds for more than one night (I told him he can see ds as much as he wants). I always let him choose which of his days off he has ds and I work my own social life around that.
Last December I had a date with a man I'd been seeing (briefly). Ds was meant to be going to ExH for the night. On that day about lunchtime exH rang me and said he was at work (day shift) and he was stuck in London (we live in the north) doing maintenance on a train and he might not be able to have ds but he would "let me know". I informed my date that I might not be able to make it. At 5pm exH was still "not sure" what time he'd get back but he suggested I have my date at home while my ds was asleep! For a start I had not been seeing this man that long, I do not want any man around my ds unless I know the relationship is genuine and secondly the whole point was for me to go out and have a night off. I cancelled the date. At 8pm exH rang, said he was home and he would still like to have ds. Took ds round to his, exH was drunk. He'd lied about being at work and had been in the pub. Luckily there were no other incidents like that since but it sticks in my mind and makes me wonder why on earth I should feel guilty about what I'm doing for my future.
I'm sorry that got a bit rambling/ranty, what I wanted to ask was how would everyone go about telling him? And do you think it's fair on my ds for me to do it?
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How do I tell exH we're moving away?
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Bitchqueen90 · 01/05/2016 12:52
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