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If you're single but your friends aren't, what do you tend to get up to at the weekend?

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Madblondedog · 30/04/2016 17:44

It looks like dp and I might part ways, week day evenings I'd be ok as I have a lot going on but weekends terrify me as all my friends are coupled up?

I don't want to be alone all weekend

What do you do?

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IonaNE · 30/04/2016 17:51

I can't wait for the weekend, which is the only time I have to read all the books I want to, learn all the stuff I want to and email with friends whom I don't see regularly. I mean there are always more languages to learn, books to read, other stuff to learn, books to write, craft projects to do than you have time..

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Thebrowntrout · 30/04/2016 17:52

Sweet FA

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loveyoutothemoon · 30/04/2016 17:55

Enjoy housework and chilling in silence. Once you learn to be independent you'll love it.

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MarthaCliffYouCunt · 30/04/2016 17:58

Be bored mostly. MN, FB, netflix.

Do you have children?

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ALaughAMinute · 30/04/2016 18:02

Read
Go to the gym
Meet up with my single friends
Play Scrabble on Facebook
Post on MN
Check to see if there is anyone new on POF and a few other online dating websites
Watch BGT
Take the dogs for a nice walk
Phone a friend

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Madblondedog · 30/04/2016 18:03

No children, just the dog

I've never been a big fan of my own company, love being with people.

It's the thing that terrifies me the most about the situation

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MarthaCliffYouCunt · 30/04/2016 18:09

My local dog walkers has started a saturday morning "walk and train" session. If i didnt have DC i would be going to it. Is there anything similar doggy related in your area?

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Madblondedog · 30/04/2016 18:12

It's more Saturday evening that worries me and Friday a little......when you know you're "supposed" to be having fun

I'm hoping things will work out but I think it will be because it's better the devil you know for both of us

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MarthaCliffYouCunt · 30/04/2016 18:19

Oh yes i know, maybe should have expanded that my suggestion was in the hope that saturday morning hobbies would lead to new friends who would issue saturday evening invites.

Do you work? Ask colleagues for drinks, start letting people know you are available for socialising.

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Notfootball · 30/04/2016 18:19

I'm married and would love to be out more often with my friends on weekend nights. DH is happy to be at home with the DC but my married friends are all busy staying in and my single friends with DC struggle to get babysitters.

Don't write off all your coupled up friends, some (like me) may be desperate to get out.

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Madblondedog · 30/04/2016 18:23

Been trying to sort of see how it would be and made lots of effort with coupled up friends......not really working

Unfortunately I work field based so no colleagues

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IonaNE · 30/04/2016 18:28

"I've never been a big fan of my own company"
I would take a long hard look at this, OP.
If you are not comfortable with yourself as you are; and with your own company, then you'll always be at the mercy of someone who is free enough to leave you. It means you don't enter freely into a relationship but you need another, like those climber plants that need a wall, a trellis or a tree to grow. Not a good place to be.

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Madblondedog · 30/04/2016 18:30

OK I should clarify......I am happy on my own but on my own Friday eve til Monday morning every weekend doesn't appeal at all

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MarthaCliffYouCunt · 30/04/2016 18:31

Ok well then i'd go for finding some people filled hobbies then and build your friendship pool from that. From my FB feed the people who always seem to be socialising are students (you could take up a course at FE college), volunteers/charity supporters (usually holding fundraising nights in bars!), gym goers (the women anyway, lots of cocktail bar photos)

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CottonSock · 30/04/2016 18:40

I joined an outdoor group when newly single (met dh on second activity which wasn't planned). I also had a great time doing stuff with spice. It's a load of activities for single people. City socialising is similar. Does depend a bit where you live as lots more available in cities.

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TheSuspiciousMsWhicher · 30/04/2016 18:43

I do lots of things or nothing depending on how I feel. I only have EOW to fill because I have kids with ex so I'm busy without trying on the weekends I have them. Today I'm on my own. I walked into town and did some shopping and had a coffee this morning. This afternoon I've been reading/MNing/messing about on the Internet. Tonight I'm meeting friends for dinner.

Tomorrow, I'm planning to go for a longish run (rarely get the chance during the week). Then I need to do some work. It will probably be quiet. I may not speak to another adult but that's ok. I don't mind spending one day of the weekend by myself but feel a bit isolated if it's both days so I make an effort to get out and see people. Most of my friends are in couples but that doesn't mean we can't get together at the weekend.

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Madblondedog · 30/04/2016 18:52

I'm quite shy so the whole situation of having to go meet new people is really tough.

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TheSuspiciousMsWhicher · 30/04/2016 18:58

Could you do something based around your dog? There are meet ups in my area for people to walk their dogs together at local country parks.

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Madblondedog · 30/04/2016 19:03

That sort of thing does happen locally but unfortunately I am probably 20 years younger than most of the others there.

Sounds like I'm trying to be difficult I know, I'm really not

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Ragwort · 30/04/2016 19:04

Loads of 'couples' do their own thing at weekends anyway, not everyone is out socialising or being loved up - DH is out with his friends tonight, I am happily at home - I often go out with 'single' friends at weekends, cinema or a meal out etc.

Actually DH and I rarely socialise together Grin.

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MarthaCliffYouCunt · 30/04/2016 19:07

It does sound like youre putting up obstacles tbh which is understandable when its outside your Comfort zone but it isnt going to help with your issue. Maybe leave it a while until you're more ready to get sociable and meet new people.

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TheSuspiciousMsWhicher · 30/04/2016 19:08

When I was first on my own, I kind of assumed that all my friends in couples would be busy doing couply things or family things every weekend and not even try to arrange things because I assumed they'd be busy. But they're really not! Most of my friends are married and I rarely see them with their husbands.

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Thebrowntrout · 30/04/2016 19:21

You know v different couples to me!

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Twinklelittlestar1 · 30/04/2016 21:27

When I became single I sought out other single girls and asked them to go out for drinks. I met friends through other friends or from work and just bit the bullet, asking them if they were up to much at the weekend and then it all just kind of fell into place. I found that people navigated towards me when I was single. I'd often confide in people about the breakup and honestly the amount of people who invited me to things was just great. You need to put yourself out there, it's actually a really exciting time. I completely revived my social circle when I became single and it made me realise the value of the friendship. Reach out to people, drop a text to old friends, find out what's on in your area. You'll be super busy before you know it! Good luck!

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Madblondedog · 01/05/2016 08:56

I am wondering about trying to make more of an effort now to set the ground work down, then if/when it happens then maybe I'll be less scared

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