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I don't know how I feel

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Wishingicouldcalmdown1 · 29/04/2016 13:41

Hi I'm just looking for advice, lately I've been longing for time alone, I never get a second, and I feel terrible guilty about wanting this. We have 2 small children both work full time. I just sometimes want 1 hour to myself to just sit in silence or sleep or anything! Am I being ridiculously selfish here? Also I'm feeling very agitated and I lose my temper a lot, I feel this may be a reason i want the time alone and I get annoyed but, im seriously sexually frustrated, dh is terrible in bed and it feels 'ok' at most, I've never had an orgasm for years but I love him and the children so I keep my mouth shut, only recently have I started thinking about how much im missing out. We have sex at least 3-4 times a week but I feel it's just all about him and that's it.

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ImperialBlether · 29/04/2016 13:46

God, you have sex 3-4 times a week with someone who's terrible in bed? You poor thing. Is there no way you can talk to him about what he does? Is it just completely selfish or does he make you do things you don't want to do?

Of course you need some time on your own occasionally. What happens when the children are in bed? Could you go out for an hour then?

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Wishingicouldcalmdown1 · 29/04/2016 13:50

No he is just so boring it's literally me making him orgasm and that's it,he sometimes tries with foreplay i just can't get there. No I can't he works nights I work days I don't get in til 10pm most days, also most of my friends don't live here I never really see anyone

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Wishingicouldcalmdown1 · 29/04/2016 20:24

Is it possible I just can't orgasm? I don't really recall ever being able to now I sit and really think....

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barcelosthehappychicken · 29/04/2016 20:32

Might be better asking that in the Sex section. Because you could get a toy or two and try that. Especially if you are in bed at night alone? See if you can actually orgasm for yourself?

What time does he go to work?

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FlyingScotsman · 29/04/2016 20:34

What about weekends? Could you organise yourself so that he is looking after the dcs whilst you have some time for yourself?

Agree about the Sex section.

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Wishingicouldcalmdown1 · 29/04/2016 20:55

I will thanks, I've tried any amount of toys everything, nothing works, even when I'm alone. No we both work weekends. We have different days off so never really get any time! I suppose I get time when children in bed but I'm usually tired I end up asleep myself! I feel lucky I can go to work but it's still not really time alone and I never get a second to think.