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New nephew

(32 Posts)
Flossy1971 Fri 29-Apr-16 09:07:12

My new nephew was born last week and I'm off to see him this weekend. I say 'I'm' off to see him as my husband isn't coming. He'd rather go to see rugby 7s and wants a weekend doing nothing (despite the fact he does nothing in the evenings all week!) I have to say, I am a little put out by this as to me it just smacks of a lack of support. Admittedly we only saw my family a couple of weeks ago and they are 2 hours away and we have a 3 hour journey home this evening but surely he should be coming to show his support or am I just being grouchy?!

KinkyAfro Fri 29-Apr-16 09:09:58

Support for what?

Costacoffeeplease Fri 29-Apr-16 09:11:54

I vote grouchy

NeedACleverNN Fri 29-Apr-16 09:13:29

Not everyone likes babies apart from their own

If he doesn't want to come then he doesn't have too.

LiviaDrusillaAugusta Fri 29-Apr-16 09:14:13

Perhaps he just isn't interested in babies? I'm not so I wouldn't be fussed about 'meeting' a new nephew.

What sort of support are you looking for?

IrenetheQuaint Fri 29-Apr-16 09:15:59

It's a long journey there and back when he's visited only recently. And lots of people including me find new babies quite dull.

NotAClue82 Fri 29-Apr-16 09:18:44

Ahhh that would upset me to! A new nephew is an exciting occasion. Even if you find babies dull I think in a relationship it's nice to show an interest in each others lives and families.

Flossy1971 Fri 29-Apr-16 09:38:32

ah okay, so I'm just being grouch! :-/

AliceInHinterland Fri 29-Apr-16 09:41:50

I think he should make the effort, lazy bugger. He should at least feign interest in the key events in your family life!

RaeSkywalker Fri 29-Apr-16 09:44:09

Depends- I would be a bit annoyed at DH, but that's because I spend loads of time with his goddaughters, so I'd be hurt if he wasn't interested in a new nephew on my side (I'd be referring to the baby as 'our nephew' though).

ElspethFlashman Fri 29-Apr-16 09:44:40

Support??? It's a baby! He'd say "yes, very cute" & then sit there for hours bored out of his mind.

Flossy1971 Fri 29-Apr-16 11:18:55

Admittedly it's a baby and he'd be bored out of his mind, but they are at home and therre's 2 other kids and it's not like we see much of them (like a few times a year!) whereas his family are local so we see them practically every other weekend and they were going to prepare lunch for us, etc. I guess I feel like I get very little engagement and support in the relationship in general which is why I'm a bit peeved about this.

Flossy1971 Fri 29-Apr-16 11:20:43

RaeSkywalker - I agree re referring to the baby as 'our nephew' except this morning when he said he wasn't coming and I reminded him it was his nephew to he pointed out not really, only by marriage!

RaeSkywalker Fri 29-Apr-16 11:23:57

Yes, I think that as you put a lot of time and effort into seeing his family, then I would also be annoyed by this situation.

1DAD2KIDS Fri 29-Apr-16 16:28:57

I think the rugby sounds a better option. I would love a weekend to relax and watch rugby.

Flossy1971 Fri 29-Apr-16 16:53:35

lol he gets to lounge around and do as he pleases most weekends, I'm not the most demanding of wives!

Floralnomad Fri 29-Apr-16 16:57:54

I'd rather go to rugby than see a new baby .

ChubbyPolecat Fri 29-Apr-16 17:00:58

I hate rugby and I'd rather do that than go see a new baby. Why do you need support?

RiverTam Fri 29-Apr-16 17:02:06

What support is he meant to be showing? I mean, who is he meant to be supporting? You? Your sister? And if you find want yo see his family as much as you do you don't have to.

Flossy1971 Fri 29-Apr-16 17:02:52

not support as such, but given it's his nephew as well as mine and I don't see much of my family as we live miles from them yet see plenty of his as they are local, well in my mind you'd accompany your wife, it's what you do surely?! If his sister had another baby I can't imagine for a minute saying I was off to see ,y friends while he went to see his family!

Costacoffeeplease Fri 29-Apr-16 18:11:54

I don't see my husband's nieces/nephews as mine too

achillesratty Fri 29-Apr-16 18:27:22

Another vote for watching rugby. I have less than zero in interest in other people's children, if I was in the same room I would probly feign a "oh, he/she is cute" but if he isn't interested, go on your own and enjoy yourself.

ThroughThickAndThin01 Fri 29-Apr-16 18:40:56

I would rather watch the rugby too.

And it really isn't his nephew. If you split up, would he still see your nephew and your family? They're your relations, not his.

Smartiepants79 Fri 29-Apr-16 18:55:47

Although I wouldn't mind that much going on my own in this kind of situation I have to say I would see it as his nephew too.
My aunts and uncles are all indistinguishable from who is blood relations and who is not. In fact my closest uncle is not a blood relation.
I know my DH will consider my sisters children his nephew/niece. When you are married/comitted to each other family is family.

MTPurse Fri 29-Apr-16 18:59:35

Did you agree to this trip before speaking to your dh?

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