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GipsyDanger Thu 28-Apr-16 23:35:14

I'm not sure if I'm needing an AIBU or just needing to vent as such but here goes. Me and my dh do not live on Facebook, we don't post personal info blah blah blah. My mil, with whom I get on famously...kinda does. I know I'm probably being pfb but it makes me feel uncomfortable that sometimes when she comes over she takes photos of ds and they end up on Facebook. Me and dh kind of hinted that we're not big on photos and haven't said outright that we want a photo embargo. The funny thing is, I don't know why it bugs me so much. I don't know if it's maybe that I've got like 20 or less 'friends' and she has well over 100 and the lack of control of how many people will see said photos. I am not possessive of ds in terms of hugs/holds etc and as I've said we get on really well. I keep telling myself that she's excited about her grandson, that it's not a big deal. But I can't shake this feeling of angry whenever I see a photo of my son on Facebook. It's also her profile picture and cover photo. So should I mention it or risk upsetting what is a really good relationship

SoThatHappened Fri 29-Apr-16 01:28:44

Hope this helps....it matters to her but to other people this sums it up. No one cares or is interested.

Aussiebean Fri 29-Apr-16 01:38:03

We have decided not to put dc on Facebook.

We made it clear before the birth that that's what we wanted. My mil doesn't get it, doesn't like it, but respects it.

She just doesn't get that even though she knows all her friends, she has no control over what happens the picture.

The thing that clinched it for me, was when A video of a young girl appeared on my Facebook wall. She was basically in her underwear and she was thanking someone for her birthday present.

I did not know who she was or who her parents where. But I could share that video with all my friends. You never know where those pictures could end Up. I knew then that technology keeps changing and I do not have the tech skills to protect my child from people I don't even know. (I eventually emailed the parents and my mutual friend and told her about it. She passed on the message) I doubt your mil is tech savvy either.

The problem is, you haven't told your mil, so if you want to change you will have to be forceful.

I will try and pass a couple of articles along if I can find them that may help.

Aussiebean Fri 29-Apr-16 01:40:30

www.slate.com/articles/technology/data_mine_1/2013/09/facebook_privacy_and_kids_don_t_post_photos_of_your_kids_online.html

www.independent.co.uk/news/world/australasia/paedophile-websites-steal-half-their-photos-from-social-media-sites-like-facebook-a6673191.html

Here you go

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