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Other daughter in law gets away with murder

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2015mom · 26/04/2016 15:35

My husband has one brother who is married and his wife gets away with murder!

She is so lazy does nothing to help others, keeps on having kids ! She is now going to have her third child (she will have 3 children under 3 years old) and she expects everyone to raise her kids whilst she sits there and watches tv or shops on internet or out shopping. She has never worked and gets everything paid for her whilst we go out and work for living and do everything for ourselves.

She has also caused trouble for her mother in law by breaking down relationships and still mother in law talks nicely to her for the sake of her son!!

Then I hear people moaning about her and think it's unfair and also think it's unfair mother in law burdens us with the laziness from the other daughter in law.

I am not the jealous type but someone made me think today maybe I am jealous that she gets away with murder, is lazy, gets everything whilst she does not have to work even. Though her husband on crap wage she still get in laws to pay for stuff and benefits!

She has everyone wrapped around her little finger whilst she sits on her ass all day! Makes me angry but I need to learn how to block her out and be normal with her even though it's hard

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RudeElf · 26/04/2016 15:37

How do you know what she does all day if you are so busy working?

2015mom · 26/04/2016 15:40

Because I have lived with her so I know .. At moment im off work so pop over and she is always sitting on sofa watching tv also mother in law tells me

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unlimiteddilutingjuice · 26/04/2016 15:40

" I need to learn how to block her out and be normal with her even though it's hard"

Yes. Yes you do.

So her husband is on a low wage and she is SAHM to three small children.
I doubt she is "sitting on her arse all day"
If your MIL wants to help out her grandchildren then that's lovely. I bet she loves being involved in their early years.
Why on earth would you begrudge that?

RudeElf · 26/04/2016 15:44

I think you all sound too involved with each other.

Ellarose85 · 26/04/2016 15:45

I'm a SAHM with a 10 month old and another on the way. It's impossible to sit on your arse watching telly all day with young ones to look after.

When nap times come around and my jobs are done, I will take pride of place on the sofa and catch up on stuff on sky+ and partake in some too much online shopping. Does that make me lazy too?

Vixxfacee · 26/04/2016 15:46

If she is so bad why do you go there and sit with her on your day off?

Hissy · 26/04/2016 15:47

What exactly does she do to harm you?

Why do you give a remote crap about her life and what she does and doesn't do?

Have you thought about a hobby or something to fill the time you're wasting on worrying about what another adult human being is or isn't doing?

With the amount of contempt you clearly feel for her, she'd be better off if you left her to it. She's made her choices, others are choosing to support them, none of it your business at all.

Sorry. Move on. Nothing more to see.

ChicRock · 26/04/2016 15:51

it's unfair mother in law burdens us with the laziness from the other daughter in law

How exactly does she do that? Stop allowing it. And stop popping over to check how lazy she's being.

You'll find that if you butt out of her day to day life it'll wind you up a lot less.

pippistrelle · 26/04/2016 15:51

also think it's unfair mother in law burdens us with the laziness from the other daughter in law.

In what way?

category12 · 26/04/2016 15:52

It's hardly her alone that "keeps having kids". Brother in law is helping with that.

And that's their choice. And it's your Mil's choice to help out and tolerate her if she's unpleasant.

You're doing yourself no good getting peeved by it. If people moan about her to you, just don't engage with it. And get on with doing your own thing.

StuRedman · 26/04/2016 15:52

Oh you'd hate me. Three DC at school and no job. I literally watch Netflix and eat biscuits all day.

DFOD.

2015mom · 26/04/2016 15:59

No I am a stay at home mom myself

Difference with her is that she has every tom and dick and Harry picking and dropping her kids off when she does f all for them, people around her are moaningn about her laziness

She has two kids and puts then to sleep when she is home alone and expect mother in law to sort their food out

She may have two kids and one on the way but she IS lazy ! Expects everyone else to do everything for her

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RudeElf · 26/04/2016 16:01

whilst we go out and work for living and do everything for ourselves.

How exactly are you working for a living in a way that she isnt?

2015mom · 26/04/2016 16:01

Ps I don't hate people who stay at home! I hate the burden SHE puts on others!your right it's not my problem
And I need to tell people who come to me who moan about her to tell her directly rather than pussyfoot around the situation

Mother in law helps with kids because she wants to which is lovely and she also looks after elderly parents who need special care and moans at me and my husband about the lazy daughter in law lol

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2015mom · 26/04/2016 16:03

I work and pay my taxes whereas she has come from abroad and sits on her ass on benefits she has never paid a penny INTO THE SYSTEM but is happy to TAKE MONEY OUT OF THE SYSTEM by claiming every benefit in the book

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ChicRock · 26/04/2016 16:04

You seem unhealthily fixated on her and the minutiae of her daily life. You know that's not normal, right?

BreakfastAtSquiffanys · 26/04/2016 16:06

Confused.
You are a stay at home mum who works and pays tax?

Twooter · 26/04/2016 16:06

Yanbu

BreakfastAtSquiffanys · 26/04/2016 16:07

I would think anyone who has 3 children under 3 doesnt even know where her arse is, let alone sit on it all day

WindPowerRanger · 26/04/2016 16:07

This thread is like controversial issue bingo!

Anyway, we now have the clincher. She HAS COME FROM ABROAD. Must be evil devil spawn then.

Three children under three! Looking after them herself! And she a foreigner! It's disgusting, that's what it is.

2015mom · 26/04/2016 16:08

Hahahah I have a great life but just having a moan about someone I have to deal with which is annoying

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Waltermittythesequel · 26/04/2016 16:08

You either work and pay taxes or are a SAHM.

Either way you sound weirdly obsessed with this woman and to be frank, your Mil shouldn't be carrying stories about her to you, who will obviously use them to gossip and bitch.

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2015mom · 26/04/2016 16:09

I have worked for 20 years and taking a year out!!! Going back in two months!!!

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RudeElf · 26/04/2016 16:09

How is she getting benefits having never paid taxes? Where does she come from?

2015mom · 26/04/2016 16:10

She has come from abroad!! She gets every benefit available because she does not work

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