Have just rejoined having deregged after all the password hoo ha, shows my desperate need to be told I'm in the right
DH and I were both working today, I got home earlier. Kids (age 2 and 5) were playing in dc1 bedroom before dinner, seemed happy enough, left them to it. When they came down, asked them to tidy up which they did. DH likes house tidy, I don't really care as long as it's liveable, would rather tidy up once at 6:30 but DH likes it tidy at all times (relevant I think)
After dinner I get kids ready for bed, brush teeth, pyjamas and DH says he'll read story to dc1. He notices there are handprints on the mirror in the bedroom and gets a bit ranty, 'how many times have I told you (kids) not to touch the mirror'. Goes and gets window spray to clean it.
I ask him not to, to leave it and I'll deal in the morning as the stuff he uses has such a strong chemically smell. He cleans mirror anyway.
Dc1 doesn't seem to mind the smell so I suppose it doesn't really matter, but I can smell it from downstairs and hate the idea of him sleeping in there. DH said if I object to the clean smell, I could stop them touching the mirror in the first place.
I don't give a flying fuck if there are handprints on the mirror in a bedroom where it's not even really used as a mirror. If it had the chance to get and stay mucky, I would clean once a week but DH cleans it all the time.
DH does have OCD, is on ADs and trying to manage it.
I would rather not constantly clean but also don't want to be constantly nagging the kids, 'hands off the walls, hands off the mirrors, wipe your hands, no food/drinks in the living room, no shoes in the house, no bare feet in the garden' etc because I just don't care about these things.
So somebody please settle this for us. Were we both in the wrong/right? What do you do if your partner doesn't have the same standards of tidiness and cleanliness as you?
This has been written lighthearted by it is really bothering me!
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ChuckItIntheBucketandMoveOn · 25/04/2016 22:34
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