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Would you believe this?

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toccata010 · 24/04/2016 15:28

I'm not sure where to post this - not posted on Relationships before so apologies if this is the wrong place - maybe it is AIBI?

So, would you believe it if someone told you, via text, that they were at a funeral on a Sunday?

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KingJoffreyLikesJaffaCakes · 24/04/2016 15:32

Yes.

Weird thing to lie about.

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Whisky2014 · 24/04/2016 15:34

Is it because of the day? I wouldn't have picked up the lie tbh

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VimFuego101 · 24/04/2016 15:35

I'd believe them unless I had reason not to trust them.

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forumdonkey · 24/04/2016 15:35

I've heard of funerals on a Saturday but personally I've never known one on a Sunday

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ChicRock · 24/04/2016 15:35

Probably, yes.

But it depends.

If it's someone flaky you're dating and it's the latest in a long line of excuses for cancelling, then I'd be inclined to not believe them.

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OurBlanche · 24/04/2016 15:36

Yes, as it is not against the law and many churches only withdraw for celebratory Sundays, some Saturdays.

So a church/vicar may choose to undertake a Sunday funeral.

Also some religions (e.g. Judaism) require burial within 3 days, Sunday wouldn't be an issue there.

So, unusual but not impossible.

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ImperialBlether · 24/04/2016 15:39

I wouldn't believe it as I've never heard of a funeral on a Sunday. You could look up the crematorium (if the person was cremated) to see whether it's open then.

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toccata010 · 24/04/2016 15:40

I think you may well be right ChicRock, a few flaky excuses and a gut feeling of mine.

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BeckyMcDonald · 24/04/2016 15:47

In the religions / denominations I know about (RC, CE, Methodist, Muslim) I have never heard of a Sunday burial. I don't know of a crematorium that is open on a Sunday either.

It sounds like bullshit.

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AyeAmarok · 24/04/2016 15:55

If it's one of many things that you're questioning, then surely you have to admit at some point that the relationship isn't working for you.

It's not right for you to be feeling like this, and I am an advocate of trust your gut.

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Geepee71 · 24/04/2016 15:56

Check with the church/crematorium, or wait till they post on Facebook!
I'd be inclined to go with gut feeling though.....

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OurBlanche · 24/04/2016 15:57

The crem doesn't have to be on the same day as burial.

And I have been to 2 Sunday funerals in the last 10 years, 1 CofE and 1 Catholic.

But if it is as ChickRock outlined then it could well be a flaky excuse!

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AnchorDownDeepBreath · 24/04/2016 15:58

My crematorium is open on Sundays (I just looked it up!) but you need a special request to have a service then, otherwise it's just open for people to visit and "remember".

I think if you've immediately doubted it, it says all you need to know.

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toccata010 · 24/04/2016 16:02

I really like him, a lot. Given him several opportunities to call it a day as something tells me that it's all not quite as it seems (unavailable at odd times, flaky excuses, not replying to texts then saying that's his way etc) but he won't end things. And I know I should really, just being emotional because I like him so much. And I'm not sure why I do, feeling very low. Thank you for all the replies.

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Yoursecondbest1 · 24/04/2016 16:23

Normally a Jewish funeral.

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igglepiggleisanarsehole · 24/04/2016 16:25

I have attended humanist funerals on Sunday's myself.

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Yoursecondbest1 · 24/04/2016 16:26

It's quite normal as above in London btw.

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chickensaresafehere · 24/04/2016 16:44

Have worked in a cemetery/crematorium for 10 years & have never had a funeral on a Sunday.

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Kidnapped · 24/04/2016 16:50

Could be an informal wake/get together for friends and family and he is just calling it a "funeral" because most folks wouldn't argue against their partner attending a funeral.

Was this a last-minute thing and he decided to cancel on you?

Funerals do tend to be planned in advance so the "popped up last minute" thing would annoy me.

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blueberrypie0112 · 24/04/2016 17:03

Depends. Where I live, we have obituaries on the newspaper where they will tell you when the funeral, so if i wanted to see someone is lying, I could always check the newspaper or funeral home websites.

But most funeral homes here are businesses so I would not be surprised if they are open. People pick their pastors or preachers (or however you call them depending on your religions) to speak for their loved ones. Typically, around here , funeral occur three days after death. I believe it cost more if it is longer, but not sure.

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goddessofsmallthings · 24/04/2016 17:08

If I got that text by means of cancelling a preplanned date, I'd be inclined to think 'yeah, right. more likely got pissed last night and is either too hungover to get their shit together to meet me or they're shacked up with another woman'.
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Regardeless of whether my suspicion proved to be correct, hell would freeze over- the sender would wait a very long time before I was available for another date.

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blueberrypie0112 · 24/04/2016 17:09

But in the other hand, finding a preacher or even cementry on a Sunday can be difficult. Unless the person is not religious or different religion, or decided to be cremated....

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ImperialBlether · 24/04/2016 17:51

It sounds as though he's already got a partner, tbh. Have you been to his house?

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FellOutOfBedTwice · 24/04/2016 17:53

Actually saw a funeral in the graveyard where my Grandad is buried last Sunday but it was the only one and pretty deserted so think it's unusual. Would be surprised if someone said it, yes.

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toccata010 · 24/04/2016 17:55

No, not been to his. Was meant to meet there a couple of weeks ago but he cancelled.

I think you're right. Why can't people be straightforward? I've given him the opportunity to be honest.

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