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Tell me how you felt when you knew your relationship is over

(10 Posts)
NoCapes Sat 23-Apr-16 20:55:18

I feel like I've been there a thousand times, then we just kind of end up falling back into it

This time he stormed out at around 6 last night and hasn't been back and I don't care
Haven't wondered where he is, where he slept, who he's with, I just don't care
In fact I've had the bolts on the front door the whole time I've been in so he couldn't even get back in if he tried

So is this how the end feels?
Just, indifferent?

NoCapes Sat 23-Apr-16 20:55:57

Was over* title doesn't make bloody sense <rolls eyes at self>

IronNeonClasp Sat 23-Apr-16 20:57:52

Bit of background could help - kids?

NoCapes Sat 23-Apr-16 21:00:48

Yes we've got 3 kids, 6, 5 & 5 months

magicaltoaster Sat 23-Apr-16 21:05:39

It depends on your mental state tbh. I don't think that anyone can give you a definitve answer to that question. By the time my relationship of 9 years broke down i felt like you did, but in hindsight it was because i was at such a low ebb with depression, anxiety, stress, eating disorders and alcohol abuse that I didnt have time to register it. I was just glad to have one less thing to worry about. Now i am trying to piece myself back together, I am upset about the break up. It took about 6 months to even register though.

Sorry that this isn't a straight forward answer. In your case it may be completely different. A lack of care can completely signify the end, or it may just be that you are so warn with the tension that your mind has blocked out any emotion as a survival mechanism.

One thing is for sure though that the situation isn't healthy, and something needs to change for you. I hope that you get the best possible outcome from the situation.

UmbongoUnchained Sat 23-Apr-16 21:08:10

If I'm being totally honest I felt relieved. I fucking hated him and felt very empowered when I finally plucked up the courage and told him to pack his shit and fuck off. His mummy came and cleared the house out the next day. It was shit, being a jobless teenager with a poorly 8 month old baby stood in an empty house with not even a bed. But still was the best decision I've ever made.

haveacupoftea Sat 23-Apr-16 21:19:42

With XP i kept trying to break up and he wouldnt let me... i hoped he would find someone else or do something awful so i would have a real reason....i just felt nothing for him really. One morning i woke up and thought i cant do this anymore and told him. I was relieved and elated.

haveacupoftea Sat 23-Apr-16 21:20:45

I should add i was a little down in the mouth for a couple of weeks. Sorry that i hurt him and sad that it didnt work out. But still so happy it was over x

kennypppppppp Sat 23-Apr-16 21:26:23

i was a little bit knowing it was going to happen, a tiny bit relieved and mostly devastated and broken

NoCapes Sat 23-Apr-16 22:41:06

Thankyou for your replies
You're right magical it will be different for everyone
I'm just trying to figure out whether I believe myself that I could end it for good this time

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