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did i overstep with new friend

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moomoome · 23/04/2016 12:19

i have a new friend of a few months. they went on a longish journey. broke down in middle of know where and are going to spend night in car because tow truck says they cant come until tomorrow. i have connections of connections so have asked friend of friend to check on them and take water and sandwich (friend is older with health problems). very worried as i think ive overstepped on this but am very very worried about his health and lack of water. i cant get to him at least until tomorrow as have disabled child and six hour drive. have i really overstepped? would you think i was interfering?

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Sunnybitch · 23/04/2016 12:21

I think you've done a lovely thing and I'm betting it will be much appreciated

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Openmindedmonkey · 23/04/2016 12:25

I would think you were being thoughtful & lovely!
Of course there are so many other things that spring to mind in this situation- do they have phone coverage there? If so, call them & ask what they need for their own health, safety & sanity - meds, beds, books, etc
It's not your responsibility to fix everything but I'm sure they would appreciate your practical & emotional support.
You sound like a good friend to me!

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moomoome · 23/04/2016 12:27

thank you Sunny. am so worried as friend is so self sufficient but i am worried about them. i hate to pull strings but just knew who i could cal and they were not far away.

all i can say is if they never speak to me again at least i did what i could to make sure they are ok.

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rollonthesummer · 23/04/2016 12:27

You obviously know them well enough for you to be someone they let know that they've broken down in the middle of the night! It's not as if you are a stranger?

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moomoome · 23/04/2016 12:31

hi open. they are very self sufficient in mind. but yes i did speak to them. they have no food and very little water. older than me and health issues. and needed some loo paper. oh and no phone charger. so thats the last conversation. i doubt the 10 miles into town will be an easy walk due to health. i feel that i have invaded there space but i really dont want terrible outcome as they were on way to see elderly relative with terminal condition. :-(

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Bree85 · 23/04/2016 16:40

Yeah you are a good friend. A very good one and he should appreciate it.

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Openmindedmonkey · 23/04/2016 16:48

Have you heard from them?
It's a bit late but could you / anyone call a taxi for them?
Hope everyone is ok.