Ok so here it is. Me and my ex wife own a house in the town were she lives. I live 90 miles away. I have the kids full time. I think I am what is call the residential parent. Anyway about 9 months ago the Tennants left the house in a wrecked state. My ex wife had run off with another man around that time. So I have been a bit slow into action as I had a lot of emotional stuff going on, plus the kids, plus full time work.
Anyway even though she lives 3 mins drive from the house it became obvious that she had done little to fix the house. Even though for months she has been supposed to be sorting it. I am paying the mortgage on it (and mine and the kids house too) and an empty house is both expensive and a liability. We hopefully want to sell it but no way will it get a desent price in the state its in. Its on the market and every viewer has said too much work. So I have loaned 5 grand and started on getting it sorted. It's alot of work. Nothing in the house that doesn't need fixing, replacing or decorating.
So here the focus of the rant. Not only am I working full time, raising the kids I am also travelling 90 miles up the road to work on the house every free minute. I spent my week off work in the school holiday working on it and since Friday (back to my job on wed). My mum's is kindly watching the kids.
Today I text her to see if she could help me move the fridge. She come hung over and telling me she had a good night out. I have been working my fucking balls of since 7am Friday morning. Sleeping on a crappy camp bed in the middle of a recked kitchen since friday. She has been out drinking!
My ex is alway so keen to remind me half the equity in the house is hers. If half of its is hers why can't she lift a finger and help? She live 3 mins away and I live 2 hours away. I also have to raise the kids and hold a responsible job.
It just feels bang out of order that she owns half owns the house (even though she has never paid anything to it) but has done nearly fuck all to sort it. I have enough on my plate with the kids and work. The least she could do is help out since she is nearly next door. I feel so knacked, angry and I am missing the kids. Normally we would go out for the day on a Sunday. I am working so hard to sort something that belongs to us both and all she can do is party. Why can't she get some work done in her free time. Its not like she has kids to look after, after work. I would love some free time. It's vary rare with work and the kids. I have started OLD and its going well but at the moment I can't see me ever getting the time to actually meet.
She gets to have fun and time for herself. I get sorting shit out as always.
Sorry her hung over was the final straw for me today. Glad that is off my chest. I just want a break.
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A rant if I may? Exhausted and a little anoyed
1DAD2KIDS · 17/04/2016 16:34
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