I'm a male, 46 and have two children 10 & 12. My wife dotes on the three of us and we are to all pretence and purposes a happy family. Over the past 12 years however the lack of coitous has diminished to the point whereby I do not think we will ever be intimate again.
For years I have taken the rejection and now this has mentally affected who I am. I do not feel the same confident person I used to be.
I get moody with resentment and sometimes this causes arguements and this further deepens my resentment.
I've considered finding a sexual partner outside the marital home just to relieve my pent up frustrations. Masturbation alone does not fill the void. Using porn does not do anything apart from making me feel like a pervert watching an 18 year old masturbate.
I've stopped going out on the off chance that she may feel in the mood and I'd miss out on that opportunity. I feel totally consumed at times with he thought of not having sex, it is the one thing that is on my mind all day long, not every 8 seconds!
I have resigned myself to the fact that we may never be intimate sexually again, and for a day or two I'm ok with this, but then I'm all consumed by the urge to have some physical contact. I've even contemplated going with a prostitute, approaching a single neighbour to become friends with benefits.
I feel that I'm becoming perverse in my thoughts, I can't even have a meeting without thinking about the prospect of having sex with these colleagues.
It's so demoralising that I feel a little resentful to my wonderful children, although I do think this would have happened regardless of children.
I'm not sure what or where to turn next. I feel that I'm being totally selfish about my needs. I could not have had a more caring wife who does everything for us 3.
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RedMan2016 · 09/04/2016 07:31
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