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He left me at 35 weeks

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MeliMommy Fri 08-Apr-16 23:50:31

I'm not sure what I'm hoping out of posting on here. Encouragement? Stories of others who have been through this and have made it on top?

I was madly in love with the father of my child. He was madly in love with me as well. We knew we were it for each other and everyone around us knew as well. Then I became pregnant. Little did I know that there were some wounds in me that needed to be dealt with. I became depressed, negative, the family that loved me like their own (his) became annoying to me. I made things up in my mind and starting complaining and telling stories that were not always true.

My ex boyfriend didn't tell me about my behavior and I didn't see what I was doing. Then on March 24th 2016 he broke up with me and left. I'm staying in his apartment until May 18th (when the lease expires). I'm not working and have been relying on my church to help provide for me. He's paying for the apartment. My heart was completely devastated. It still is.

I went through some inner healing to deal with the triggers that were causing me to act contrary to who I am. I'm praying my ex gives me another chance. I love him very deeply. He's extremely analytical and logical so he used his mind, not heart to make this decision. I miss him everyday. Especially today. We were moving to New Haven, CT because he got a medical residency at Yale together. I was going to stay home and raise our daughter who I named after his mother and myself. I hurt his family so much and I hurt him so very much.

He plans on being at the birth of the baby. I'm praying so hard that the delivery touches his heart. We can work on these issues because I am getting the help I need. He feels like his trust is broken, but trust can be rebuilt...right?

It hurts even more because I did this with my own hands. His mother told me that, I could have had everything I dreamed of with them, but I did this.

I just want another chance. If you are the praying type, please say one for me.

Thank you for reading.

AntiqueSinger Sat 09-Apr-16 00:35:55

Sorry if this seems brief, was about to go to bed but didn't want to leave your post without saying that I am so very, very sorry that you're going through this. How awful for your ex to decide to leave just when you're at your most vulnerable timesad. Have someflowersand somechocolateand some moreflowers.

I bet you have cried a river of tears. And the best his mum can do is rub it in that 'you could have had everything' rather than offer some supporthmm, even if, as you say, your behaviour has been bad, surely they should be concerned about your health and that of their future unborn grandchild? At least you are trying to work on yourself hopefully they will see this. I do hope your ex comes round, although frankly I'd start questioning if he really is the best thing since sliced bread. Did you try to explain how you've been feeling? What was his response?

Try not to get overly anxious and practice deep breathing and take lots of rest. Last thing you need, is to go into labour already high on adrenalin-fueled stress.

Hopefully other posters will be along soon x

AntiqueSinger Sat 09-Apr-16 13:18:42

Hope You're O.k. OP?

hurtandconfued2016 Sat 09-Apr-16 15:28:57

Hello my love
My ex left me at 32 weeks pregnant. My baby is now 6 weeks old.
My ex planned to be at the birth and me also thought maybe when he sees his daughter come into the world he would come back. He never came to the birth in the end (ended up in a relationship with ow)
I had depression before ex left and when he left I went on a downwards spiral not eating,sleeping was just a shell really. The only thing I cared about was or 2 year old.
Once I had the baby I got even worse I am not receiving councilling on a weekly basis!
Please tell your midwife about it you need help and support and try and support yourself without relying on him. (I have learned this the hard way I looked for support from my ex and it's not happening)

Now 6 weeks on I am still struggling but can see a little light at the end of the tunnel! When you have the baby you never really have time to think I find its harder at night when baby is sleeping. If you ever need a chat message me

AntiqueSinger Sat 09-Apr-16 18:45:43

Lovely post hurt.

Yes please do inform your midwife or doctor as hurt says, because you are at increased risk of PMD. I had it twice and wish I'd had more support.

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