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An odd kind of friendship problem

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wanderinglonely Fri 08-Apr-16 19:58:38

A really good friend, and work colleague, changed jobs and moved to the other end of the country at the beginning of the year. Before she left we'd had a series of disagreements and weren't actually particularly good friends anymore. I have tried to sort things out but she is currently blowing very hot and cold, sometimes i get chatty informative messages from her and other times i send a message and get a 1 word reply.

My problem is that work colleagues and others here don't know we''re not good friends anymore so at least twice a week people come up to me and say 'how's x doing', send her my best' etc. I really don't want to have to explain that we're not on the greatest of terms at the moment so i try and be vague but then they start asking more detailed questions which a good friend would know the answer to. How can i deal with the questions without having to say 'I don't know, last time i asked how things were going she just said fine'?

TBH if it weren't for people regularly asking me how she's doing, and me feeling like i should have some answers (because it was a big move for her and people want to know she's ok), I'd have probably have stopped contacting her weeks ago.

whirlygirly Fri 08-Apr-16 20:00:42

Oh just be honest with them. They'll give up asking pretty quickly. These things happen. If you're not likely to see the friend again I'd let it slide tbh.

AmusingMinnie Fri 08-Apr-16 20:04:40

Just say to them that you haven't really heard off her and when you have she's just said she's fine. It's not that unusual for people to drift apart when a big move has occurred.

annandale Fri 08-Apr-16 20:05:41

'Ah, bless her, i think she's really embracing the move and making new friends'

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