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Life is no fairytale

(12 Posts)
Howwouldyoufeel0 Mon 04-Apr-16 09:29:42

Just that really, didn't realise how hard a break up is, when I first met h it was like a romantic out of the films type and now ffs what a life sad

PPie10 Mon 04-Apr-16 09:30:17

So sorry you are going through this thanks

TheNaze73 Mon 04-Apr-16 09:39:38

It's an old adage but, time really is the best healer. I don't think any kind words from anyone truly sink in at the moment, as you're in fog but, things WILL get better. There will be great times ahead

Resilience16 Mon 04-Apr-16 10:59:01

I am nearly 3 months down the break up road, and while it was horrifically painful at the start, as time has gone on it does get easier.
Yes there are still bad days, yes I do still miss him and think if only, but I know I have done the right thing and the positives are starting to outweigh the negatives.
Keeping busy is the key, and if you start to look back with rose tinted spex have a long hard think about the reasons you split.
You will get through it, and it will get easier. Hugs and good luck x

Binders1 Mon 04-Apr-16 14:30:41

It is really hard and it's taking too long. I wish I could fast forward my life just 12/18 months from now - it's got to be easier/better then. flowers for you.

Howwouldyoufeel0 Mon 04-Apr-16 16:02:55

Thank you everyone it's only been a week and I've found out he's sleeping with someone else sad my heart is shattered I can't stop crying, I'm at work now hiding outside crying as I type

Howwouldyoufeel0 Mon 04-Apr-16 17:26:01

I don't know how to get over this sad

Howwouldyoufeel0 Mon 04-Apr-16 17:32:05

I was so strong when I told him to leave now I feel I should have him back

CantFeelMyFace Mon 04-Apr-16 17:39:19

If he's already sleeping with someone else, you definitely don't need him back in your life. Stay strong. No contact. It will be painful but just do it, you've already done the most difficult part, do t give up now. You'll find someone else. It WILL be ok.

goddessofsmallthings Mon 04-Apr-16 17:46:02

If you have him back you'll only be exchanging the misery you feel now for the worse misery of knowing that you're in a relatinship with a man that can't be trusted, which will lead you to agonise over what he may be up to when he's out of your sight and agonise over why he slept with an ow when he is in plain sight.

Why settle for a lying cheating toerag when there's no shortage of honest guys who don't have the morals of an alleycat?

You'll be far better off by keeping busy, telling any thoughts of the scumbag that appear unbidden in your mind to go elsewhere, and letting time take its course.

pizzaeatingmonkey Mon 04-Apr-16 18:40:14

I'm 5 weeks in and it's not getting any better, it's even dragging up old memories when husband left me ...in 1990!!

WetLettuce123 Mon 04-Apr-16 22:26:47

I'm sorry you're going through this. X

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