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Any tips for dealing with a broody man?

(7 Posts)
howmanyairmiles Sun 03-Apr-16 13:16:24

Bf has returned from seeing his sisters new baby and is full of the joys of babies and dropping lots of baby hints.

For a million and 1 reasons by child bearing days are long over and my lifestyle is not conducive to having another kid.

Obviously I will let him go if thats what he really wants it just seems a shame he has ruined a decent relationship. Any tips to cut his broodiness or shall I just let him go.

Pinkheart5915 Sun 03-Apr-16 13:22:23

His only just returned from seeing a new lovely baby so it could well wear off in a few days. If he does continue being broody then as you say your have to let him go and find somebody that wants children.

How long have you been together? Have you ever spoke about wanting/ not wanting children?

LifeCrossRoad Sun 03-Apr-16 13:25:28

No advice, as according to my MIL men do not get broody, and DH would only agree if I wanted one (not that he wanted children), therefor him wanting to help with childcare/parenting is a lie and it would be hard for him if he ever had to change a nappy or bath or bedtime.
DH is thankfully normal.

LifeCrossRoad Sun 03-Apr-16 13:26:41

But seriously, if you've not talked about it previously, he hasn't ruined a decent relationship. Just have a talk, simples. Ask him does he really want kids, say you want no more and how do we move on from here?

goddessofsmallthings Sun 03-Apr-16 13:50:45

Buy him one of these, programme the setting to 'colicky', and tell him that if you were to have another dc you'd expect him to be a SAHP: www.educationworld.com/a_curr/curr077.shtml

howmanyairmiles Sun 03-Apr-16 13:50:54

Ha Lifecross road, I can introduce him to your MIL, he is currently wandering around looking all puppy eyed and muttering about his niece. He wasn't like this when i took him to see my sisters new baby.

Been together about 8 months, we haven't had the children talk in depth, I don't want to tell him the real reason why I won't have another kid, I just thought he would have twigged due to my age, job, lifestyle and outlook. There is literally no room in my life for a child

I am heading for the airport tonight, hopefully when I get back in 10 days time the broodiness will have eased off. If not its time to expose some of my walls and have the serious talk.

His broodiness just seems to have zapped the fun out of the relationship or maybe its igniting long forgotten memories shoved deep into the recesses of my brain.

Toffeelatteplease Sun 03-Apr-16 13:53:52

You need to have that serious talk sooner rather than later. Its only fair Some men get very broody.

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