Last night me and DP had date night and went out for a meal and drinks. We were laughing and having a good time. Towards the end, I said I wouldn't have another cocktail otherwise I'd fall asleep when we got home and therefore we wouldn't have sex. He said yeah don't otherwise you'll get weird and aggressive when we have sex. I laughed at first but the the more I think about it, the more insulted I feel.
I don't think I'm particularly weird in bed. I guess that's a matter of opinion but we've never done anything I would class as weird. And in terms of aggressive - I guess I feel more confident when I've had a few drinks and therefore a bit more dominant ie go on top etc, but I've always thought this was 'sexy'. 
I now feel stupid and mortified. He says I'm over-reacting as always. He has apologised and said it was a bad choice of words and he does actually like it when I am more dominant. Because he has apologised he thinks I should get over it because he's apologised (if that makes sense), but now I'm left feeling a bit shit and humiliated. Am I just being over-sensitive?
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Shizzlethedizzle · 03/04/2016 08:27
I guess I felt his apology was done a bit begrudgingly, in a 'here we go again' type manner...which is probably a whole other thread Doreen
! And the whole thing has definitely left me feeling a bit self-conscious about sex. (Needless to say, we didn't have sex last night!!) Urgh just awkward about an intimate topic. Thanks for the comments anyway!
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