Basically it can be something as little as me "snapping", "you do it all the time" to something like him stopping family members seeing our kids.Â
I can be snappy, I don't claim not to but 95% of the time it's through tiredness (2 kids under 2 who wouldn't be) when I have snapped I always apologise but he tries to tell me I've snapped when I know I haven't. Which seems like something trivial, I agree it is, but it can lead him to ignore me for days and days, to him shouting in front of the kids (which we always said we would never do), he can also spend most of the day in bed "avoiding" me.Â
He's even gone as far as to bad mouth me to my family and friends in front of me, telling them that I'm difficult and over sensitive, that I slam things when I don't get my way (which I do slam things but it's out of frustration) he has said that he thinks I do it to provoke him, which scared me tbh. I don't know why any one would do such a thing.Â
He knows I suffer with anxiety and depression but seems to play on it, and with how I've been feeling with the whole situation it didn't take a lot to push me further into depression.Â
I don't want to go into the major things I've helped with, I did them out of love but feel like I aided him just getting things his own way.Â
We had an incident where an ex claimed while working away they were in contact and met up (for you know) but she didn't have proof and neither did he. So I had to let it go, he twisted it "how dare you not believe me" "she's got mental problems anyway, she can't be believed". I have my theories but without evidence I can't do much and he knows it.Â
He also comes and goes as he pleases, and "I don't have to tell you where or when I'll be back" but I have to tell him every detail of where I'm going and who with.Â
And with regards to anything sexual I gave up trying to seduce him ages ago as I always got knocked back but god forbid I ever say no when he tries it on.Â
These are just some of the things that confuse me and break my heart. I don't know what to do. We've talked about going to counselling before but will it really help?? Any advice would be a great help. X