I have been with my OH for 8 years and we recently got engaged, I am very happy and think he is too (?)
The problem started around Christmas when one of his close work friends tragically passed away unexpectedly. Since then, he has become friendly with his friends widow, phone calls, texts and popping round to see her. I totally understood as I have always trusted him and he said she didn't have any close family or friends (I have since found out his is not true) She then started calling late at night, crying etc asking him to come round as she was lonely, sometimes he would answer and take the phone into a different room and sometimes he would cancel the call. I told him to tell her not to ring in the middle of the night (after midnight!) and thought that would be the end of it.
We had arranged to meet up with some friends over the weekend but I ended up not being able to go (babysitting issues) so he went on his own. I had no problem with this even when I tried to call and his battery had died.
When he came back (with one of our mutual friends) he plugged hi phone in and she immediately started to call him. He didn't answer the call. I was a bit pissed off as it was late again and then the mutual friend told me he had arranged to meet up with her that day and I ought to be careful as she 'wanted a piece' of him. (He said he was going to meet up with her but didn't and that she was probably calling to find out were he was) I then went through his phone, which I never have done before and he had deleted all texts to and from her and also deleted his call log. We had a huge row that ended up with him saying he wouldn't contact her again and would block her number. I felt like a bit of a bitch as she is obviously lonely and needs support. The problem is now I don't know if I trust him when he says he won't get in touch with her. We both work full time and his job means he does a lot of travelling and could be anywhere in the country. I have never been jealous before and is driving me mad that he can't see my point of view about this woman.
Am I being unreasonable???
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GeorgesMummy1 · 29/03/2016 13:42
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