DH is away this weekend on a stag do. He usually goes one one once a year to a European country somewhere. He has a hobby which requires atleast 2 weekends away per year and around 15 full Saturdays or Sundays away per year. On top of this he likes to watch a sporting event twice a year which takes him away for the entire weekend.
lastly, DH teaches Geography and takes students on 2 field trips per year, one 5 days, one 4.
On top of this DH plays a range of sports which will take away the odd day at the weekend.. maybe 6 per year and an evening every week. On top of this he has a few friends birthday nights out dotted throughout the year, a few snooker nights and maybe 3 Christmas celebrations.
I don't mind DH having his own time away I think it's healthy but find that it's me organising and trying to create date nights for us, he very rarely plans or considers anything for us to do as a couple unless another couple asks us. I wouldn't mind so much if he didn't full his life with many other hobbies and fun but it leaves little time and money for us to enjoy being a couple.
we have 2 DCS and get plenty of family time and family days out but I miss us. How much time away is too much? Does it sound like he's having too much?
DH once told me to plan as much free time for my own friends and hobbies as he does and when I pointed out the tiny fraction of time it would leave for us to do anything together at all he refused to acknowledge it. I do get and am allowed 'me time' too but I'm feeling annoyed that DH'S 'me time' stacks up massively compared to my time or couple time.
If he just made more effort with us, I don't think I'd mind so much...
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How much away time is too much?
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Lplatesinuse · 27/03/2016 21:06
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