This is such a petty issue and I'm sorry to post here but I really can't shake the knots in my stomach and need some advice.
DM has always been on/off with me. She's either gushing over how much she misses My DC and wishes she lived closer (she moved 2 hours away when DS1 was 4mo) or completely switches off and I don't hear from her for weeks.
Last time I visited was the last weekend in Feb and we arranged to meet halfway tomorrow and she was going to have DC to stay for a couple of nights and DH and I would travel there on Saturday evening and spend Easter with them there (we've stayed there for Easter for the last 2 years).
I haven't spoken to her since Mother's Day- she was very off with me as her card hadn't arrived yet ( I had posted it on Friday and thought it would be with her on Saturday). She has the ability to make me feel like a crap daughter even now I'm 30. She told me all of the wonderful things Dbro had done for her (he lives at home and rarely lifts a finger to help out) basically he'd taken the dogs for a walk and made her breakfast. I mentioned DS1 was poorly so we'd cancelled our plans for the day so she said she would FaceTime later that day to speak to the DC. She didn't FaceTime but I was so busy looking after DS that it didn't bother me.
Since then I've not heard a peep from her, apart from facebook posts about how wonderful my brother is.
So my question is do I contact her about tomorrow? Or leave it? It was doing us a huge favour - DC3 is due shortly and we were going to use the child free days to make a start on the baby's room. We can do it while they're here or I'm sure my dad would look after them so it's not like we are reliant on her having them. DC enjoy visiting too and as she was so excited to have them to stay I just thought it would be nice for all of us.
I can't believe the anxiety this has caused over the past week. I have been scared to call incase she makes me feel as awful as I felt the last time we spoke. I don't want her to think I'm using her for childcare either. I don't want to give her any reason to bitch about me like she does about her own DM and sister when they're not around. I'm hormonal and taking everything to heart at the moment!
I just want to find out what the plans are as I will make others if she's changed her mind.
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Scoopmuckdizzy · 23/03/2016 16:59
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