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Men on online dating posting pictures of themselves....

(99 Posts)
lottielou7 Tue 22-Mar-16 19:18:41

Standing there in their pants. Since when did this become a thing?? Do they not realise how desperate it looks?

I actually thing OD is becoming worse not better!

mumsonthelash Tue 22-Mar-16 19:40:08

Hilarious. Because of porn. Because they actually want you to send pictures of your bits.

ScoutsMam Tue 22-Mar-16 20:02:44

I always avoided anyone who didn't seem to have one recent-ish photo of themselves taken by someone else.

Tearsoffrustration Tue 22-Mar-16 20:10:49

With their tops off lying in bed - ew! confused

lottielou7 Tue 22-Mar-16 20:18:19

Tops off is bad enough. But standing in front of the mirror after a gym session in your pants with red, sweaty feet?!

I suppose the men like this are as you say the ones who are going to ask for nude photos.

Gingermum Tue 22-Mar-16 20:19:57

If you look closely you can also see the ones where they've cut their ex (or current) wife out of the picture! The line of her head is still visible. So they're too lazy to even get a new photo taken!

A friend of mine says she sees a few guys who have their arms round two women as if to say, 'I'm a player me.' And older men are often pictured patting their cars grin

VinceNoirLovesHowardMoon Tue 22-Mar-16 20:22:50

It's a recognisable symbol of someone who just wants a fuck. No idea how successful it is!

Gohackyourself Tue 22-Mar-16 20:35:55

I agree with all of the above.

Another pet hate is their description of "love the gym/gym bunny/ gym mad"-
The only reason you now go to the gym is because you now have too much time on your hands coz the mother of your children is doing all the hard work ........ Grrrrrrr

INeverFinishAnythi Tue 22-Mar-16 23:45:14

Gohackyourself that's so true! I read some guys profile earlier that said 'I take my kids to the beach, to theme parks, to the park, I love doing all the kid stuff!' and I just thought ugh. Kids stuff is getting up every day, taking them to school, going to work to pay for them, rushing around to pick them up after, making their tea (and making them eat it!), helping with homework, washing their clothes, cleaning up their puke and staying up all night with them and a million other things. That's kids stuff. Not the fucking beach! Can't stand Disney dads.

But I may be projecting slightly grin

lottielou7 Wed 23-Mar-16 07:59:22

Disney dads grin that's funny! The thing is that most women are on dating sites to find someone decent and some of them are so clueless about how they are presenting themselves. I saw one who suggested a 'cosy night in' as a first date. Then there are those who take photos with clear evidence in the background that they are living with someone.

I think pants pictures are a new low. 'I'm so desperate, I'm stripping down to my underwear' not attractive....

StillDrSethHazlittMD Wed 23-Mar-16 08:10:46

As a man myself who did online dating (never again) I perhaps should have looked at the competition - maybe NOT having a photo of me in my pants was where I went wrong?!

On the flip side of this, Gohackyourself, I would say at least 50% of the female profiles claimed to spend loads of time in the gym and had photos of them either pulling those stupid pout faces.

Mag314s Wed 23-Mar-16 08:16:10

You know what you would be getting!! It's a handy label.

Mag314s Wed 23-Mar-16 08:19:11

Yeh i put the dates on my photos because so many men asked me accusingly how much weight id piled on in the years since they were taken. In their prejudiced minds no 45 yo can be slim i guess. And i checked out one man (so easy0) to his fb page and he was plump and no looker and he wanted verification that i wasnt fat before he'd meet me. I stopped messaging at that point.

QueenLaBeefah Wed 23-Mar-16 08:19:52

Anyone mentioned photographs of themselves with their bike? Xx

INeverFinishAnythi Wed 23-Mar-16 08:54:31

Or photos in the dark, wearing camouflage style clothes, proudly holding a massive fish!! So many of those grin

lottielou7 Wed 23-Mar-16 08:57:19

I've never understood the fish at all!

lottielou7 Wed 23-Mar-16 08:58:51

Mag - I agree. Men seem to feel entitled to go out with a woman at least 15 years younger than them, regardless of what shape they're in!

lottielou7 Wed 23-Mar-16 08:59:02

Mag - I agree. Men seem to feel entitled to go out with a woman at least 15 years younger than them, regardless of what shape they're in!

VinceNoirLovesHowardMoon Wed 23-Mar-16 08:59:44

Or pictures with a gun! Jog on

lottielou7 Wed 23-Mar-16 09:07:42

This guy I know has a load of guns in his bedroom cupboard - incorrectly stored. I could never get past the fact that he had shot guns in his bedroom!

RedMapleLeaf Wed 23-Mar-16 09:45:10

Guns, fish and/or scantily-clad women all confused me.

TheSinkingFeeling Wed 23-Mar-16 14:04:15

Having been on Tinder before, and being a man, I can give the equivalent female picture no-nos. As Tinder uses your FB pictures, I think some of this is not reorganising them for the Tinder app.

'Driving the car' selfie, wearing sunglasses: I want to see your eyes, thanks.
Picture with your arms round last boyfriend.
Passive aggressive FB status picture, often featuring Minions.
Photo of pets, but none of yourself.
The obligatory selfie taken from above, or five taken from exactly the same angle/facial expression.

whatdoIget Wed 23-Mar-16 14:08:51

I saw one who said he was looking for casual sex not girlfriends and the picture was if him and his children hmm

Parrotmore Wed 23-Mar-16 14:14:09

When I was online dating a guy sent me a pic like this taken in a mirror with his wedding ring on and then tried to convince me it was his right hand when I pointed it out hmm

TheNaze73 Wed 23-Mar-16 14:23:47

There are definitely some odd creatures on both sides of the fence. Men with fish trying to look like cavemen & women with virtually no clothes on, falling out of their tops. Don't see the end game with either. Are they so successful due to these pictures, that they're just ploughing through everyone or so unsuccessful, which is why they're still on online dating sites. It's all highly irregular confused

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