I'm posting on behalf of a non-MN friend.
Her soon to be exH has been following her..somehow. It seems her Whatsapp has been being accessed remotely. She thought it was a few months ago but STBX denied it although he had info that was only in Whatsapp messages. Now she deletes everything after reading and sending but saw two voice messages showing up as heard before she'd had a chance to listen them - and had had her phone all the time.
She recently found him by her car in a car park of a residential building that he shouldn't have known she'd be in/near. He ran off when she arrived at her car (but they're still living together because he's being a PITA basically).
He was accessing her emails a few months ago and she reset her password (to a random letter/number/upper and lowercase combo) and that seemed to work for a while but then he got access again. Then he said he'd stop accessing them but that he could "anytime he wanted" regardless of what password she used.
She now has a second phone which she's hiding as long as she can.
He says he has dates and times of some of her activities and he's hired someone to follow her.
So can anybody help out here. She's not in the UK, in case that makes a difference. What is he doing, how is he doing it and what measures can she take to be untraceable?!
And finally, I've told her this is abuse, but when I went to find her a link to send to her new phone, I couldn't see this sort of thing laid out. She thinks he's being a stereotypical "jealous husband" which I don't think is an excuse anyway, but it's more than that, right?!
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dreame · 18/03/2016 19:30
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