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Would you believe what a man says drunk?

(19 Posts)
Ella2016xxxc Wed 16-Mar-16 09:04:21

I've been getting to know someone for about 7 months now.
Anyway the other night he was at my place and we had a few drinks.
We were lying in bed,I was lying on his chest and we were just chatting about all sorts really.
He was talking about how he needs to change his job as he is getting fed up and then talking about my family.
Then he held my hand and said "I think your amazing you know"then kissed my forehead and he was just staring at me.
Then he said do you think this is love?
I kind of mumbled something but I'm in love with him but didn't want to say it incase he didn't feel the same way.
We kind of just lay there,didn't talk just felt at ease I guess,I can't explain it just feels natural with him.
What do you think drink talking?
could he be falling for me?

ByTheNine Wed 16-Mar-16 09:12:54

I wouldn't set a lot of store by a drunk declaration of love. One of my exes proposed to me when (slightly) drunk then never referred to it again, so I'd wait and see if I were you.

Toomuchinfo1 Wed 16-Mar-16 09:20:53

I think we can all get a bit loved up after a few drinks. But it still sounds like it's on his mind, and you had a lovely time together, so just wait and see what happens.

Ahhh, the first bit is so lush xxxx

Annarose2014 Wed 16-Mar-16 09:22:58

My DH first told me he loved me when drunk.

But I sensibly decided it was worth nothing unless he could feel that sentimental sober.

The next morning he said "I remember what I said and I know you think it was just drunk talk but it wasn't - I love you"

THAT I paid attention to.

I would also think there was a big distinction between "I love you" and "do you think this is love?" I.e. In the latter, he doesn't actually know yet.

So I would stay guarded, as if he hasn't figured it out yet, even when plastered and sentimental, then don't put all your chickens in this particular basket.

And if he ever does figure it out? It needs to be when sober also.

Ella2016xxxc Wed 16-Mar-16 09:26:55

He is just so guarded when sober.
He even told me drunk he keeps his guard up.
I don't know why.

Ella2016xxxc Wed 16-Mar-16 09:30:23

He always prompts me.
Do you love me?do you think this is love?what do you want in a relationship?do you want kids.
Never what he wants.

decslover Wed 16-Mar-16 09:30:30

No

Or a woman for that matter

hellsbellsmelons Wed 16-Mar-16 09:36:16

As they say;
A drunk mans words are a sober mans thoughts!

Ella2016xxxc Wed 16-Mar-16 09:39:12

I know myself but that's just me when I've had a few it's when I can say how I feel normally I just keep my guard up for the fear of looking stupid but I know everyone is different.

Toomuchinfo1 Wed 16-Mar-16 09:39:15

hellbells . . I think there is some truth in that.

DropYourSword Wed 16-Mar-16 09:41:14

In vino veritas.

Maybe.

mithy Wed 16-Mar-16 09:47:45

It doesn't really matter what he says, drunk or sober, it's how he behaves that matters.

His actions will tell you all you need to know. Talks cheap.

Annarose2014 Wed 16-Mar-16 09:50:46

I would be definitely a bit suss about someone who wants me to make all the emotional statements but makes none himself. Fuck that.

Ella2016xxxc Wed 16-Mar-16 10:12:50

I always worry that he wants me to declare my feelings for a ego boost but that's because I've been hurt before

Toomuchinfo1 Wed 16-Mar-16 10:21:36

He could just be testing the water, as his feelings are getting stronger and he wants to know if you are on the same page.

It's hard to tell!

Ella2016xxxc Wed 16-Mar-16 11:22:56

I'm all confused now confused

ChipsandGuac Wed 16-Mar-16 11:26:38

I don't believe that drunk mans words is a sober mans thoughts phrase at all. I've talked all sorts of crap when I'm drunk!

Just see how it goes, OP.

Ella2016xxxc Wed 16-Mar-16 12:36:25

Yeah guess that's all I can do.

IamlovedbyG Wed 16-Mar-16 21:39:48

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