I posted on here a few weeks ago about the situation with my OH. Basically he has anxiety and depression, has big mood slumps and it affects everyone in the house (including our two kids - age 3 and 18 months). Plus he's a lazy sod, not related to the mental health stuff, so I've pretty much been like a single parent for a couple of years now.
Anyway, I decided to call it a day a couple of weeks ago, since then he's threatening to end it all, says he has nothing left to live for, and while I know I sound like a vile person, I'm sticking by my decision to separate as I just can't go on with how things have been.
He's been talking about moving out, but is now saying that he wants to stay put for the sake of the family. I'm not sure where I stand legally, it's a bit of a nightmare at the moment as every day, and every night, he wants to talk about our relationship and why I don't want to give it a go, and why am I willing to break the family up etc, and it's just so exhausting. I really need him to move out as its not helping either of us, and is creating a lot of stress in the house. However, both our names are on the mortgage so I'm not sure what to do for the best, or whether I just have to appeal to his better nature. I really don't want this to get nasty but I know it will if he stays here indefinitely.
If anyone has got any words of wisdom, I'd really appreciate it.
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passthesalt · 15/03/2016 22:34
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