Please tell me how to be the best friend I can to her in this situation.
Found out last night my friend in a shit marriage with no love has been emotionally and intermittently physically abused by her DH. Lots of background and traumatic circumstances and she did have an emotional affair a few years ago which the H has not got over - but won't go to counselling. She firmly believes as a result of this she deserves everything he wants to give her. 2 kids approaching teen years.
My instinct - and what I said last night - is that she needs to LTB, come n stay in my spare room if needs be etc etc but she clearly isn't ready to do that and thinks she deserves nothing better and leaving would be worse than staying - partly because of money/small village mentality, and partly because he has said he will hunt her down and kill her. She has absolutely no sense of self worth or having the right to a better life.
I am sure she is not going to leave imminently but I have no idea what to do to support her from today onwards. I want to be a good friend to her but my logical brain just keeps screaming 'get out' which she isn't ready to do.
Please - any words of wisdom and ideas on how to support. Really worried here.
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How do I support my friend who is being abused?
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tactum · 12/03/2016 09:28
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