DH and I got married almost 20 years ago and after all this time I still regret giving up my maiden name. I wanted to keep my maiden name at the time and talked it over with DH then. Although he said that he would support whatever choice I made, he also said he would feel awkward explaining my decision to his family and friends.
I'm so frustrated with myself for deciding to give up my name all those years ago. My married name has never felt like me and I still sometimes sign my maiden name on forms without thinking. Ridiculously, I feel jealous of family members who have my maiden name. I also feel hypocritical talking to anyone, but particularly my DCs, about feminism and equality when I chose to take my DH's name.
So I've looked into the process of reverting back to my maiden name and it's a faff but hopefully straight forward enough.
I'd be really interested to hear any opinions on whether this is as big an issue as I feel it is, whether anyone has been through this process and how simple/complicated it is. Are there any downsides to this that I'm not thinking about?
I haven't spoken to DH about this recently although he does know I regret my choice. We have one DS (18) and one DD (14).
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I want my name back
Flicknamn · 11/03/2016 19:04
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