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Weymouthmouth · 09/03/2016 19:07

So about 20 years ago when I was 16/17 I had a boyfriend for about a year, went our separate ways (I ended it, he was gutted) quite soon after he then met someone else got married and had kids.

Over the years seen him & wife around handful of times, and we are polite etc.

On Saturday I got a Facebook message from him, saying "hi how's you" was busy didn't respond and didn't think much of it, the next day my sister (who works with his dad) told me that they had recently split up (like very recent 2 weeks max) his wife choice she just said she didn't want to be with him etc.

So i thought ok that explains the message considering we are not Facebook friends etc and was a little like for god sake what is it with men, suddenly he wants contact!

So I still didn't answer then today I get this message from him " prob should of mentioned in my message him single now" Shock

No I have no Intrest in him, don't want to meet him etc but also don't want to be rude, what can I reply kind of ending the convo?

I was thinking something along the lines of "sorry to hear that, take care of yourself"

Oh and he will 100% know I'm also single

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pocketsaviour · 09/03/2016 19:08

How about "I see in the last 20 years you haven't learned the different between "of" and "have". May I suggest an adult literacy course to while away those lonely single hours?"

I am an awful cow though Grin

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Waltermittythesequel · 09/03/2016 19:10

I would probably assume that he mentioned it in case you thought he was a scumbag trying to cheat on his wife!

I think your response is fine.

It doesn't have to be a big deal.

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Weymouthmouth · 09/03/2016 19:14

Just annoys me how exes seem to come out the woodwork when they find themselves suddenly single, it's not the first time this has happened to me, it's like they think oh let go back there for something to do so I'm not alone

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ScarletForYa · 09/03/2016 19:17

I wouldn't reply at all.

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VulcanWoman · 09/03/2016 19:23

Is it possible he's been thinking about you all these years, grasping at straws, old romantic fool that I am.

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Weymouthmouth · 09/03/2016 19:27

Possibly Vulcan, he didn't take the break up well

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Weymouthmouth · 09/03/2016 19:28

That's why I want to reply in the right way, don't want to be rude but don't want to strike up a convo

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Coconutty · 09/03/2016 19:29

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VulcanWoman · 09/03/2016 19:31

Was he no good then.

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OhShutUpThomas · 09/03/2016 19:31

Id probably reply 'what a shame for you. Please don't pursue whatever designs you have here though, as I am not interested.'

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Ameliablue · 09/03/2016 19:32

Just don't reply and if he asks when you see him next say you never got it, perhaps it went in the junk box.

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VulcanWoman · 09/03/2016 19:34

I don't agree with not replying, that's just rude and crappy.

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Weymouthmouth · 09/03/2016 19:39

Yes I thought it would be rude not to reply, but just want a short reply that doesn't spark a convo or give any wrong ideas

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Sparklingbrook · 09/03/2016 19:41

Don't reply and block him.

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Seeyounearertime · 09/03/2016 19:50

"Hiya, Sorru i haven't replied sooner i just couldn't for the life of me remember who you are, sorry, now i've remembered. fuck off. TaTa"

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HungoverLikeaSpunMoorhenChick · 09/03/2016 19:52

One word answer...

"And????"

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HeartsTrumpDiamonds · 09/03/2016 19:54

"Sorry to hear that. I wish you the best for the future."

THEN block and ignore.

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PrincessC0nsuelaBananaHamm0ck · 09/03/2016 19:55

I had a similar situation recently. No contact in 10 years, FB message out of the blue. I ignored it. I really wouldn't bother to engage...

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MakeItRain · 09/03/2016 19:55

Difficult one really, because really your reply says "thanks but not interested" which could be as upsetting to him as not replying. I don't think I'd bother. You've already had the I'm not interested conversation even if it was 20 years ago.

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Ameliablue · 09/03/2016 19:59

I've replied to guys before purely to be polite and found just that was enough to give them hope, so I don't think it is rude to not reply.

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LeanneBattersby · 09/03/2016 20:03

Just don't reply. Who cares about being rude to someone you haven't seen for 20 years? I can guarantee whatever you reply he'll take it as an 'in'. He has no way of ever knowing if you even got his messages.

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HelsBels3000 · 09/03/2016 20:13

Er BLOCK.

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AnyFucker · 09/03/2016 20:15

he fancies a shag

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