I'll try not to drip feed!!
Partner and I have been together 13 years 61 and 57
Things havnt been good since his retirement, he was leaning on me everyday to come up with things to do for the day, and when it got to the point where I couldn't come up with ideas, it would end up in us having words.
So fast forward he as now found an old school friend who he goes out with on a Friday night(great bit of me time) started going for coffee and a look round shops.
So much so that it's turned completely round that he does 80% on his own and perhaps ask 1/2 do I wanna go for coffee.
He now doesn't mention where he's been/going and just goes out and comes back 2/3 hours later. If I happen to mention where did you get too he says
Do you what me to give you a running commentary from beginning to end.
I have had thoughts is he seeing somebody a couple of times, because of the way he's changed. He's completely different person.
So quite a few arguements, not speaking over the past 2 years.
I tried lots of times to discuss our differences, but he's the kind of person that never sorts anything out, sweeps it under the carpet.
So will now just say I'm not discussing it, I'm not arguing and I'm going out.
So fast forward to this weekend
I was looking in wardrobe and I found 2 chocolate bars
One with. I Love You
One with You Melt my Heart
Searching further I found a
Box of Durex
And
A Beaverbrook receipt for £169
Well I was fuming, I rang Beaverbrooks it's turns out to be a
Ladies watch(no I never got it)
He was out at this time, so I lay them on the dressing table in bedroom for when he came in. He came in went upstairs, came down and went back out in the car!
Returned about 15 mins later(been supermarket) made a brew and came in lounge. Never said a word! Just watched the tv
So I said so what's your explanation for all that shit!!
To which I got I'm going to ring the police on you, routing in my things invasion of my property. I don't look in your draw/cupboard.
He answers were
The watch was for me!! Took it back( we weren't getting on supposedly)
The chocolate was for me, but didn't give it me. We were fine at valentines, he said it doesn't have to be for.then only.
The Durex (lubricant) was because I was getting sore when we were having sex(not bothered for last 12/14 mths (his choice) I've tried but get
It's only when you feel like it! Your time! Its only so many times you can get rejected.
I'm not buying it, he had time to think of his answers !
He said I'm mental, it's in my head and why don't I go then!
So we're back to not speaking.
Am I out of order?
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Haribogirl · 07/03/2016 18:12
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