Hi all
Was going to NC but can't be bothered & too exhausted...
Will try & keep this in a nutshell
Have been with partner for just over a year. After recently reading Bancroft's Abuser Profiles, he is very Mr Sensitive/Victim.
We both had bad experiences with our ex's & each have a child from that relationship. He talks about his ex with disregard & says she labelled him abusive. He went to court to get access to his daughter. He now has her EOW.
He has always been quite non-committal & we've had ups & downs but recently things have felt really good. I've been pretty down (made redundant, single parent, exhausted) & he was supportive & lovely during this - I'm feeling loads better now as new job & other positive changes & the other day I told him I love him (he's never said it, I have never said it, I thought he felt it but he was very quiet & did say it back but very robotically & without looking at me) Since then has been completely strange- much less tactile, moody, contemplative & keeps saying it's because he's stressed.
I'm not sure what I'm asking but think it's Whether anyone has experience of Sensitive/Victim men & could it be that after a year he's not in love with me? Do these kind of men fall in love? My head's a mess & I feel like something is just not right here....
He has always been actions rather than words with expressing how he feels... And I have always felt a bit unsure where he/we are if that makes sense....
Thanks for reading. I'm going to have a glass of wine now - hope this makes sense
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Bancroft Abuser Files; Part Mr Sensitive Part Victim. Can anyone help me work this out?
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Robotgirl · 05/03/2016 20:31
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