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Did you find love after ending a toxic relationship?

(9 Posts)
allofyou Sat 05-Mar-16 11:13:11

23 yo here. Ended an abusive relationship a few months ago. I'm feeling so much happier and confident about myself after leaving him but I still find myself missing him from time to time. I know he's no good. He found himself a new gf recently and mutual friend told me he cheated on her. So now he's not only abusive but a cheater too.

He was the only guy I invested myself in so much emotionally. Recently I had dreams about the good times we had together. I couldn't help it. I AM moving on but I couldn't help what I would dream about.

I'm scared that I will not find a good guy who I will have such strong connection with again. But I believe wholeheartedly I will find true love.

How did you find love after leaving a toxic relationship?

Quoteunquote Sat 05-Mar-16 11:48:02

Oh goodness yes, and we are still together 23 years later.

I found the perfect person after I had sworn off relationships, and we are still very much in love and happy.

I met my OH through mutual interested, we still do a lot of fun stuff together, concentrate on finding out about yourself, and then when the likely candidate pops up, you will be strong, ready and know what you require from a potential partners, so far less likely to fall for substance behaviour again.

There are plenty of decent men out there, just get yourself strong, before you consider anyone.

Mrskeats Sat 05-Mar-16 12:16:49

Yes I came out of a bad relationship and now live with a wonderful man and we are very happy

There are lots of nice men out there and you are so young yet. Dont settle and have a strong sense of your own worth (this is what i have tried to instill in my own daughters)

Onwards and upwards

ijustwannadance Sat 05-Mar-16 12:22:07

Yes, but please don't be in a rush to be in another relationship. Give yourself time to recover.
The best thing is knowing you won't put up with the same shit in the future.

donajimena Sat 05-Mar-16 12:28:19

Yes I did. Very much so. I didn't end the relationship though he did. But lets just say it didn't bring out the best in me.
I had a 6month break but I had found peace of mind and was happy being single. The timing was luck.

allofyou Sat 05-Mar-16 12:51:54

Thank you ladies. Your comments give me hope.
I didn't end the relationship either. He ended it but I was the one who put the communication to an end sad I'm happily single now and not interested in dating or messing around. I'm just scared that it'd be difficult for me to or it'd be a long time before I find the right person

donajimena Sat 05-Mar-16 13:07:09

I think sometimes (as long as you don't repeat it) a toxic relationship does actually do you a favour. I look back now and think 'oh my god why did I tolerate that' ? I said to myself that I would never put up with the treatment I previously allowed and I have a much healthier attitude towards relationships.

Savagebeauty Sat 05-Mar-16 13:11:19

Yes. I wasn't looking at all and he just appeared. wink
We are currently long distance ( 200 miles) but see each other twice every six weeks. He totally "gets" me and I him.
Ex h doesn't exist any more for me.

ciele Sat 05-Mar-16 21:25:49

My heart is pounding. I know it's just anxiety. DH watching a very boring programme. Married over 25 years. Empty nest. Long term sexual dysfunction and we are now very different people from when we were young. I know i will calm down. Just going to read.
Saturday nights are always the worst for me.
This is the price I pay for otherwise good life.
How many others are there out there like me?
I don't think I will ever leave...much better for everyone, me included to stay.
Thoughts anyone ??

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