Hey everyone, I'm new here so be nice if I do anything wrong, lol!
I'm 23 and have been with my partner since we were both 18. When I was 20 I found out I was pregnant with a little girl, now we have a beautiful 2 year old together :)
His family for the most part are ok with me, his mum loves our daughter and so do his brother and sister. However, the problem arises with his cousin.
From day 1 I hate to admit it but I've had bad views about his cousin. Shes 32 and refuses to work for some unknown reason (All of her children are in school) she has 4 children and no contact with their dads - some of the family claim she doesnt even know who their dads are.
Her children themselves are very rude. I know it isn't the kids fault that they've been raised with poor manners but whenever I see them it just makes me cringe as they're so rude. They open and close cupboards in my house looking for food, they go into my partners office and use his playstation to play 'adult' games, and when I say they shouldn't their mother backs them up and says they can.
His cousin has always had a problem with me too. In the 4.5 years I've been in his family she has never directly spoken to me until a few days ago (Which I will get to later) She outright ignores me and looks past me if I'm speaking near her or even to her. I was told by my boyfriends brother that before he got with me her and my boyfriend used to have 'sleep overs' this is when my boyfriend was 17/18 and she would've been in her mid 20s with children! I asked him about these sleepovers and he said it was always good fun and there wasn't a problem with it. After he got with me the sleepovers evidently stopped so I feel she harbours some anger towards me for breaking their bond kind of?
I have gotten home from work on several occasions late at night (I work as a receptionist in an A and E department) and my partner will be sat on the sofa in our living room with his cousin next to him, in their pyjamas watching movies. One night I was so tired from work and irritated that I told her she should go home to her children as I wanted time with my partner now. This flipped my partner out, he was really angry at me. I was speaking the truth - she never even cares for her own children, it's always her parents or my partners mother that does it.
At the weekend we went to my partners mothers for sunday dinner. Of course his cousin was there, she always is.
Whilst we were eating his mother invited our daughter to his cousins daughters 11th birthday party. I said it was a lovely invitation and we would take her along, or I would because my partner works weekends. Honestly I didn't want to go and spend time with his cousin and her children but it was for my daughter, not me.
Anyway, his mother went to clear the dishes and my partner and his siblings were helping so it was just me in the dining room with his cousin and two of her children aswell as my daughter. She turned directly to me and said she didn't think it was a good idea for Harlow (My daughter) to go to her daughters birthday party. I was taken aback so didn't even respond to her. It was so rude and she hadn't even given me an excuse.
I told my partner as soon as we got home what she had said and he didn't believe me. I swear down to you ladies he didn't believe me!!! He said I'd always had an issue with his cousin and that he didn't believe she'd say that to me as she's a 'lovely woman' I was so angry that I left the house and went to stay at my parents for the night. He texted me during this saying if I couldn't accept his close relationship with his family and cousin then we'd have to rethink our relationship.
I'm at a loss. Things have blown over now between me and him, I told him what she had said was the truth and he sort of accepted it but he's done nothing about it.
What do you guys think? I'm so annoyed and stressed. How can one woman be making my life hell like this? I'm also thinking of my daughter here.
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Partners cousin makes my life hell (Sorry long post!!)
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HarlowsMummy90 · 02/03/2016 19:45
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