I've posted in chat for traffic, but thought I'd post here too. I've copied the post from my other thread:-
Ds spends half his time at his dad's, so a 50/50 arrangement.
There has never been any issues as such, in all the years I've been separated from his dad, and everything pretty amicable.
However, Ds opened up to me last night how hurt he is feeling after a talk his dad and his step mum had with him the other night.
They said they wasn't having a go at him but he shouldn't have any contact with me when it's their week that they have him.
It's nothing in particular that they have a problem with, but lots of small issues, that I think has led to them raising it with him. Some of these issues might be my fault, so I'm also feeling responsible. But not sure.
I occasionally drop Ds to his dad's on my way home from picking my other dc up from school. Ds walks home with friends and coincides with me collecting my other dc's from primary. So we see him all the time. Therefore I will drop him off as we're going that way.
Ds asks me to arrange stuff that they aren't happy with, as they should be doing it, but I've previously been the main care giver so I just do it without thinking. School trips/letters, dofe arrangements etc.
He'll pop back to mine to get a forgotten book/game etc, and they don't like this.
Like I say, lots of small things.
When ds is with me, there have been many occasions where he'll pop over to his dad's to watch football/see family visiting etc, and I don't feel hurt.
As long as my ds is as happy as possible in the circumstances, then I have no problem.
Or am I doing things wrong? Sorry if I end up drip feeding, as I'm not sure what info is relevant here.
Any thoughts?
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enjoytheracket · 02/03/2016 09:58
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