We've been separated for 4 years. And have a super little (DC) who we both love to bits.
But Ex has always been SHIT at making arrangements / sticking to them to look after DC.
He says its because of his job. He does work odd hours and is away from (his) home for a few nights a week. (Not same ones each week)
Because of this, we've never, ever had an EOW arrangement or similar. He says its impossible. He won't even commit to every third weekend, or just committing to one night a week.
So it's all ad-hoc and last minute. DC is therefore with me most of the time. Which is fine. And I bend over backwards to accommodate Ex seeing DC when he can.
But last week, we had a dreadful row about it all, after he suddenly requested seeing DC when I had already made plans.
I went crazy at him. And now feel terribly guilty.
I've just had enough.
But really, I'm after advice on how we move forward from here. How do you make arrangements with an Ex who won't commit and wants to keep things "spontaneous"?
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Bloodybloodyhell · 29/02/2016 20:11
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